I did a search in this forum for thread titles containing the word 'romance' & all the threads were by people who belong in this forum. As an outsider, I would like to make the first outsider-thread about romance in this forum.
I sort of have a problem with relationships because it's difficult for me to continuously have new things to talk about with people unless they have a weird kind of intellectual bent. Sort of a zany element of inquisitiveness.
But, the people (women) I always connect best with in terms of chemistry are the expressive touchy-feely, sensitive types. My girlfriend of 3-&-a-half years I'm pretty sure was ISFJ, & most other girls I've been with or even AROUND for an extended time are probably Feeling types.
It makes sense because my feelings are strong, but I can't express them except in music or writing because they're too weird & fragmented. If I ever talk about them I use the easiest, dumbest, most obvious terms because I feel like it would damage the people I'm usually around if I told them everything.
So (having learned about the MBTI system a few months ago), I think I need to cultivate more Thinking-based relationships in my life. But the problem is that romance is very important to me. Truthfully, it's far more important than almost everything else. Intelligence & intuitive understanding & so on are nearly completely subsidiary to it, as far as I'm concerned, & I start feeling like I'm decaying or dwindling away inside if I go for a while without it.
For example, after my girlfriend & I broke up, even though I was heartbroken I was immediately going out & trying to find girls to have romantic times with. & you think I mean sex by that, since that's what it would seem to mean, but actually since I was grieving I didn't even care about sex, all I wanted was romance (whatever that might be....).
That was in early 2010. Right now I've barely done anything social in about 6 months, just working & going home, gettin my superior-league hermit on.
So, I'm just wondering what NT romance is like. What are your concepts of it, how do you approach it? Is it important to you? Do you notice yourself changing if you go without it? etc.