Hi im an ENFP male - Im living in France and currently dating one of your kind an ENTJ woman. I am extremely creative, loving/affectionate, passionate guy. Not wishy washy though like some ENFPs can be, im a rocker bad boy but also extremely loyal and fidel.
Ok the problem is my ENTJ girl seems so distant and rather uncaptured by me, she gives me affection but its not consistant at all. I am also 31 and she is 22.
last night I asked her again - if she prefered me just as a friend instead of a boyfriend and she gave me quite a telling off infront of other people in a bar, she even went as far to say I have asked her this question 3 times now and its getting on her nerves and she walked out (She did return a little later to give me a small carress I guess to show all was ok).
The thing is im confused, She kisses me only when she wants to kiss me, we spend time together only when she wants to spend time together...... She will go a day or two and she will have no need to speak or contact me. The build up to getting into the relationship with her was exciting and puzzling, I was proud I got the girl after a 3 month ladder climb with her, she was in no rush and quite confusing..... But now we are in a relationship, I can barely tell if i am actually in one !
Is this how ENTJ women funtion ? , they get the guy and treat him basically like a pet animal ? or does the relationship grow bigger and stronger allowing the affection to grow stronger in effect ?
Or do I just accept this may not be the best match ?
By the way my ENTJ girl is stunning, tall, beautiful and strong willed, she has a lot of male attention and she told me she hadnt dated for 2 years prior to me, she said she choose me because I looked at her differently not like how other men look at her.
I want to keep her - but this lack of excitement and consistant affection is driving me crazy !
Advice please !! do you suggest I stay with this relationship or not. I really need it to get more exciting and closer.