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    So...what's stopping everyone from turning small talk into banter?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenaphor View Post
    So...what's stopping everyone from turning small talk into banter?
    Lots of da pplz dont likez da banter. Dey alwayz turnz it back into da small talkz. I kan only banter about da weather for so long. When I banter, they're eyez glaze over. It's either small talk or nuthin. True story.
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    ENP's are the only types that have ever made me feel like a sensor.


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    This is why *some* Ne users have trouble connecting to the rest of the world at times. It's sometimes difficult to connect. It's like I can connect if I throw Ne in the trash for the day, other than that, good luck. Now, some Ne users have it all figured out and are brilliant at connecting with whoever they want, whenever they want, about whatever topic they want. Personally, I'm still working on it.
    NTJ's are the only types that have ever made me feel emo.
    ENP's are the only types that have ever made me feel like a sensor.


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    Small talk isn't about them..it's about you. Banter isn't about you...it's about them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenaphor View Post
    So...what's stopping everyone from turning small talk into banter?
    yes, you don't have to be passive in a conversation. be bossy like us with the big Eness

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    Banter is a sort of back and forth "challenging" of wits, battle of wits or being intelligently funny.
    Quote Originally Posted by INTPness View Post
    Lots of da pplz dont likez da banter. Dey alwayz turnz it back into da small talkz. I kan only banter about da weather for so long. When I banter, they're eyez glaze over. It's either small talk or nuthin. True story.
    This. I try to do small talk/banter.

    See result above.

    I fall silent...and slink away.

    I'm still working on it
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    Me, too. I've only gotten to not saying "God--you sounded like a total idiot! *smack*" every time it happens. Progress!

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    Hey guys, thanks for the replies!

    It is definitely nice to hear some other people who share the same sentiments when it comes to small talk, and your different coping strategies ;P I'm still confused when it comes to quantity or quality, but I guess it also depends on the context. After all, its small talk. Its really better for social integration than understanding the world. Thanks again! I feel much better now knowing that I am not alone.

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    It's about making da connection- like peeps have said.

    I like using it to figure out the person in front of me. I hate talking about the weather and all that. I try use some situation in front of us, maybe making light of the long line we are in. Not saying 'God this line is long' but something like 'this must be the best looking cashier in the place.' It's corny, but silly, and it opens the way for a smile if nothing more.

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    I don't think there's a set way to go about this since it's mostly situational (for me). My version of small talk usually has a dash of absurdity and ridiculousness and still manages to be intelligent (somehow...at least I think it is intelligent; don't know about the other person's thoughts...). If the person has interesting replies, I might keep talking. If not, I try to steer them into talking about things they like (so I can day-dream and listen for words that could captivate my interest and elicit a response from me).

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    Everyone sounds stupid during small talk. Such is the nature of small talk.

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