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    People who had major depression does it ever get better? I been depressed for so long but last couple weeks took it to next level. I was planning on committing suicide; That was almost 3weeks ago and my depression haven't improved. If I ever fall like that again I don't know if I have the strength to stop myself. Some people told me that depression is something that always stick with them. I try my best not to post since it's negative and annoying but I would like some feedback; sorry.

    Don't ask me why I'm depressed, or tell me to get help/see therapies.

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    Yes, it gets better, depending on (1) treatment by a professional to provide access to meds and trigger changes in behavior/thinking, and/or (2) making changes in how you view and respond to life so that if your depression is situational, your situation is modified.

    That's what changed my lifelong depression.
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    Quote Originally Posted by think2much View Post
    Don't ask me why I'm depressed
    do you know it yourself?

    you know depression is an symptom and if you know what is the symptom coming from from, you cant heal it properly. ofc there are drugs for depression, but they only treat the symptoms, not the cause of the symptoms

    but yea, it wont last forever, the feeling that the state is permanent is one of the symptoms of depression, or more like sub symptom of depression
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    I've had it for a long time. I started getting treated in my late teens (went off in my mid 20s.. then started up recently). If I was to believe some psychiatrists (and I'm kind of inclined to), I was already "self-medicating" before that (i.e. drug abuse.. especially the particular kind I was involved in).

    Does it get better? Chemically, yes. Circumstantially, not exactly.. not everything is in my power. Things can and will discourage me, and I still experience loss. I suppose treatment helps from despairing and sinking too far into an abyss though.

    What also helps is that the closer I come to realize what is and what isn't in my power, I get realizations that help me experience even higher forms of happiness... they help move on, and make new steps. If you don't seek treatment, at the very least, devote yourself to this. Being mindful of what you can control. It might help. Learn to face some shit, seek out your strengths, and don't bang your head in a wall, obsessing over problems that you might not be able to fix (and I'm not trying to sound like an authority on any of this btw.. I'm working on it all myself).

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    Depression is as complex as it can be. Every depressed person is unique. Sometimes a depression can be cured if the person that is depressed has a few lifestyle changes that take off the overall pressure, others need very specific changes in attitude or just come to acceptance with certain aspects with themselves. No one here knows you and can be of much help apart from advising the obvious.

    All depressions can potentially be cured in the right circumstances, and the eventual cure might even seem very easy and simple. But curing a depression is never easy, especially if every fiber in your body wants you to run away, like commit suicide or seek exclusion. After recognizing you are depressed, a good first step for every depression is understanding that running away from problems is never a 'real' solution, and a good second step is having or finding a friend you can confide in, that cares about you.

    So to answer your question, yes depressions can be dealt with, and yes things can get better. How you reach that destination however is different per person and having professional help if you can't find that way by yourself is the logical choice of action.

    But I'm not telling you to go seek help, because you don't want me to and I don't know you so I can only pretend to care, but I really don't.
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    I grew up with parents who were both clinically depressed for years, and in turn I was clinically depressed from age 12 to 16. I lost nearly all of my friends because of it, ruined my education, and I struggled to get over that in the years that followed. It wasn't a very healthy household. I regularly thought about suicide, and I was convinced the whole world was a terrible place without a good thing in it that wasn't somehow broken or damaged. I'm 20 now and I'd describe myself as a grounded optimist. I still have bad days but I know how to handle them more effectively. So yes, it really does get better. How though, is up to you.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    Yes, it gets better, depending on (1) treatment by a professional to provide access to meds and trigger changes in behavior/thinking, and/or (2) making changes in how you view and respond to life so that if your depression is situational, your situation is modified.

    That's what changed my lifelong depression.
    Jennifer is very right. Changes in behaviour/thinking and changes to your individual circumstances can make a huge difference. A lot of my depression was situational but I couldn't escape it until my parents finally got a divorce. Even then though, I had to realise that the way I viewed everything and viewed myself was completely warped and damaging. I had to retrain my brain, but a lot of it came naturally as I gathered better experiences in life.

    I don't know if any of that will help you. As Fluffywolf put it:
    Quote Originally Posted by Fluffywolf View Post
    Depression is as complex as it can be. Every depressed person is unique.
    In any case, the turning point for me, the point when I started getting better, was when I realised the only person who could save me was myself. So... save yourself. Do it for you. Do you want to be happy?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Faine View Post
    I grew up with parents who were both clinically depressed for years, and in turn I was clinically depressed from age 12 to 16. I lost nearly all of my friends because of it, ruined my education, and I struggled to get over that in the years that followed. It wasn't a very healthy household. I regularly thought about suicide, and I was convinced the whole world was a terrible place without a good thing in it that wasn't somehow broken or damaged. I'm 20 now and I'd describe myself as a grounded optimist. I still have bad days but I know how to handle them more effectively. So yes, it really does get better. How though, is up to you.
    The blue is a good point too. Curing depression doesn't necessarily mean making the feelings disappear completely but simply knowing better how to place those feelings in context, not letting them lead you to erroneous conclusions, doing what is best for yourself regardless of how you feel, etc.


    Jennifer is very right. Changes in behaviour/thinking and changes to your individual circumstances can make a huge difference. A lot of my depression was situational but I couldn't escape it until my parents finally got a divorce. Even then though, I had to realise that the way I viewed everything and viewed myself was completely warped and damaging. I had to retrain my brain, but a lot of it came naturally as I gathered better experiences in life.
    Totally. Reframe, reframe, reframe. Depression can be an emotional stance against a seemingly unfixable problem. But again, yes, even when the circumstances change, this usually just 'releases' you to be free of the depression; you still need to do the work necessary to reframe the world in your head. A lot of depression -> hopelessness -> powerlessness comes from a faulty reading of life situations and other people. I realized a lot of the coping skills i had developed to help me survive my parent's crappy marriage and my dad's boozing were actually detrimental in the big-picture, even if in the small immediate picture they had presented benefit.

    In any case, the turning point for me, the point when I started getting better, was when I realised the only person who could save me was myself. So... save yourself. Do it for you. Do you want to be happy?
    Another wonderful point in the blue.

    Other people might help, but no one is able to "save" you. If you don't teach yourself to swim, you're eventually going to sink. In the end, there's only one life you can truly save, and that's yours; other people have power over their own lives.
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    Do you want to know the truth?

    Depression is like a shadow. It's in your back when you're walking down the street, but it always catches up with you, and it becomes one with you.

    When it's in your back you think you've fooled it, but after a while you will notice that it always catches up with you, and even then you'll still have hope, even though there's no point for hoping for something that will never come. A fucking cure. (whatever that means)

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    Quote Originally Posted by think2much View Post
    People who had major depression does it ever get better? I been depressed for so long but last couple weeks took it to next level. I was planning on committing suicide; That was almost 3weeks ago and my depression haven't improved. If I ever fall like that again I don't know if I have the strength to stop myself. Some people told me that depression is something that always stick with them. I try my best not to post since it's negative and annoying but I would like some feedback; sorry.

    Don't ask me why I'm depressed, or tell me to get help/see therapies.
    One thing I can tell you is never think that it will always stick with you, that's completely false trust me; it's all about how you go about dealing with your problems.

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    tell me to get help/see therapies
    You can't get better by yourself. It's unlikely.

    One thing I can tell you is never think that it will always stick with you, that's completely false trust me.
    Trust is not a reason.

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