I began writing about how I've dealt with my INTJ sis and whatnot but I must dash for a bit....as she's the one making me and standing behind me in a (ahh, she's ordering me to take that out and was even grabbing me in an attempt to delete what I'd wrote! ) threatening manner. She's upset but not at me! (though, now at me a bit! )
Mind you, we are extremely close and I adore her as well as all my INTJ kinsmen. Even when they are bothersome! Perhaps, especially when so!
So, I'm afraid I shall refrain for a while with my response, rainfall. =/ Hopefully others will continue to aid you as some already have.