It seems to me that attraction between these two types could very well be destructive, yet the polar functions make attraction something difficult to avoid.
Maybe I'm crazy.
Here's and example of a potential conflict between the two:
ESFP desires physical (not necessarily sexual) affection, and a lack there of leads to spontaneous overwhelming anxiety in the blink of an eye. INTJ has trouble relating to such an intense emotion. In response, INTJ runs to hide... he is safer in his own world. This leads to even less physical contact, leading to more anxiety for the ESFP, scaring the INTJ away even more.
Each type tries to understand why the other is acting the way they do, but they just can't relate.
I would like to hear what people think about the compatibility of INTJ's and ESFP's.
Pro's and Con's.