User Tag List

123 Last

Results 1 to 10 of 25

  1. #1
    Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Posts
    58

    Default NTs and social networking.

    Firstly, I just want to say that I've never had a social network account (unless you count Youtube/Vimeo accounts). I don't know; I just never was/am the social networking type ever since they got popular at my high school. I am typically very private and I didn't see the point of a site where many people post the most flattering photos of themselves, doing things they wouldn't normally do, and posting updates of themselves like a celebrity. In a sense, it's like "recreating" an idealized version of yourself online. Don't get me started on facebook "stalking" - but I must admit, when my friends would look up people, I had a few inquiries, myself, lol.

    Not that I have anything against the idea, itself; on the contrary, I think it's an ingenious tool that I WISH I would've invented myself. Zuckerberg/the other guys really tapped into that voyeuristic zeitgeist of the people and I admire that. But for some reason, I just wasn't into it.

    Anyway, I was fine living w/o it, but last Fall, I transferred to a college a couple hours away from where I live, leaving my close friends behind. I just didn't realize how important social networking was on campus that even some professors set up pages for us (to ask questions or comment). When so many people ask me to "facebook them," I've started to get embarrassed when I say that I don't have one, and they give me this weird look. I didn't care at first, but it's gotten annoying especially when it seems like having one is the only way to make friends, which this year, I've been a loner for the most part. Not to mention, my career plans involve an industry where connections are big. I don't mind being alone - I mean I'm an INTP, lol (90% sure I am) - but my college experience has been a lackluster one to say the least (like high school) and unbridled youth only lasts so long.

    I am thinking of getting one, but I just hate the notion of being pressured into doing something I honestly have never had an interest in. Not to mention, I'll have to be "friends" again with people I didn't want to see after high school. It's hard for me to gauge the advantages with the disadvantages.

    Any other NTs have this problem? Or is it just me?

  2. #2
    Diabolical Kasper's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Enneagram
    9w8 so/sx
    Posts
    11,544

    Default

    I have several accounts.

    One is for business/work contacts, they can add me if they want, I don't care, I rarely access the profile but it gets them off my case when they ask me if I have a facebook account. I hope to delete this account at some point, in the meantime it's the one I would make look respectable and have viewable by potential employers when job hunting.

    One is for people I know irl and would like to stay in contact with but do not see on a regular basis, it can be quite useful to know what is going on, I log in every once in a while to keep abreast of things but I never post anything on my wall. If someone tags me in a photo the tag will be removed, I purposely don't want people to know what's happening with me.

    One is for online people (and citiville )

    All in all I do not use it as a social networking tool very much, it lets me know what's happening with other people who seem to use fb as their only way of telling people what's happening and as such is quite useful, but it doesn't tell them what's going on with me.

    If your professors are using it to communicate with students you would be putting yourself at a disadvantage by not setting up an account.

  3. #3
    Senior Member Mephistopheles's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    MBTI
    ENTP
    Enneagram
    6w5
    Posts
    160

    Default

    It's actually really practical for the social life especially for NTs I think. You don't need to think much about partys and other events, you can organize everything necessary like where to go, who's the driver, etc. in a few moments. And we're usually the ones who want to think about stuff like that the least.

    Additionally, there are the things you mention. So, I highly recommend to make an account; You don't need to do much or reveal much about you, simply use it to make organizing stuff easier.
    They say I only think in form of crunching numbers.....
    -Fall Out Boy

  4. #4
    Junior Member Auguris's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    5
    Posts
    4

    Default

    In general, online social networking is great. Conversation is a hell of a lot easier when I have time to think out what I want to say instead of throwing out a snap reaction.

    I don't like Facebook. I had one for years, but eventually I deleted it. Partly because of privacy issues, partly because of all the old high school "friends" who had treated me like garbage that wanted me to be their Facebook friend. Unfortunately Facebook has become something of a social norm, so I recreated mine, using a nickname instead of my full name so my old high school chums couldn't find me. I don't use it, but at least when someone asks I can tell them I have one. It's the same as holding a drink in your hand and never taking more than a sip -- I don't want any alcohol, but at least if I pretend everyone will stop trying to give it to me.

  5. #5
    Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Posts
    58

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Auguris View Post
    In general, online social networking is great. Conversation is a hell of a lot easier when I have time to think out what I want to say instead of throwing out a snap reaction.
    Lol, that was one of the first advantages I thought about. I usually like my thoughts to be heard, but in public, I usually don't have the quick enough tongue to do so and afraid to sound boring or incompetent. This is also true when arguing.

    >so I recreated mine, using a nickname instead of my full name so my old high school chums couldn't find me. I don't use it, but at least when someone asks I can tell them I have one. It's the same as holding a drink in your hand and never taking more than a sip -- I don't want any alcohol, but at least if I pretend everyone will stop trying to give it to me.

    Lol.

  6. #6
    Junior Member Argentum's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Socionics
    INTp
    Posts
    9

    Default

    I have a facebook, but I really only use it to accept contacts from other people, and only if they are school or work related. I don't accept friends requests from family--my thesis advisors don't need to see pictures of me as a child in the bathtub. Neither does anyone else in my opinion, but I dare *you* to try convincing my ESFJ mother otherwise...

    I refuse to search people out, but, I find this works to my advantage in keeping the masses down.

    I do however keep a Livejournal for personal and hobby related reasons. Nobody in real life knows that it exists, and I have several close online-only friends there. This is where I spend most of my online social time.

    I hear you, though. My facebook has like 200 friends (I need to go through them--some are from early in undergrad and I knew who they were once, but not anymore!) but "friend" is a generous term for most. I don't care much for the merging of my online and offline lives...it makes me uncomfortable. Like they're getting into my personal space.

  7. #7
    Honor Thy Inferior Such Irony's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    MBTI
    INtp
    Enneagram
    5w6 sp/so
    Socionics
    LII Ne
    Posts
    5,091

    Default

    I have a Facebook account, the main reason being that for some of my friends and relatives its their primary means of communication. If I'm not on Facebook, its hard to keep in touch with certain people. I don't use the Facebook applications and don't update my status that often. I only check it about 1-2 times a week. I limit my Facebook friends to relatives, closer friends, and coworkers.
    INtp
    5w6 or 9w1 sp/so/sx, I think
    Ravenclaw/Hufflepuff
    Neutral Good
    LII-Ne




  8. #8
    Senior Member INTP's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2009
    MBTI
    intp
    Enneagram
    5w4 sx
    Posts
    7,823

    Default

    i have resisted facebook for a long time. nowadays i think i could join there, but i dont want to add some people as friends and i dunno how they would react if i wouldnt add them, and i dont care to find that out either. also my mom is there and i wouldnt want her to know if i joined there also, but she friended my best friend so..

    i have been thinking of making some acco for internet friends only tho, but dunno its not really that big of a deal.
    "Where wisdom reigns, there is no conflict between thinking and feeling."
    — C.G. Jung

    Read

  9. #9
    A Mystery Jacques Le Paul's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    MBTI
    XNTP
    Enneagram
    359
    Posts
    889

    Default

    This is such a E/I difference it's not even funny anymore.

    I have a FB, 13 email adresses, youtube account, alot of fourm accounts, erepublik account and alot of mmo accounts.

  10. #10
    L'anima non dimora Donna Cecilia's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    1w9
    Socionics
    LII
    Posts
    1,220

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Auguris View Post
    In general, online social networking is great. Conversation is a hell of a lot easier when I have time to think out what I want to say instead of throwing out a snap reaction.
    This. Having time to think over what you want to say without having people staring at you as if you were a freak is the best thing about them.

    Not to mention the chance to edit your profile wall as to leave only relevant content.

    Quote Originally Posted by Auguris
    I don't like Facebook. I had one for years, but eventually I deleted it. Partly because of privacy issues, partly because of all the old high school "friends" who had treated me like garbage that wanted me to be their Facebook friend. Unfortunately Facebook has become something of a social norm, so I recreated mine, using a nickname instead of my full name so my old high school chums couldn't find me. I don't use it, but at least when someone asks I can tell them I have one. It's the same as holding a drink in your hand and never taking more than a sip -- I don't want any alcohol, but at least if I pretend everyone will stop trying to give it to me.
    My creepy, former high-school classmates are the reason why I learnt about the 'block user' feature.

    I don't hate FB, since it has given me lots of both personal and professional opportunities. If you know how to use it properly, you'll be fine.

    "An intelligent hell would be better than a stupid paradise."
    Victor Hugo



    LII/INTj (Analyst) - 1w9 Sp/Sx - RC|O|EI - Melancholy/Choleric

Similar Threads

  1. Intoverts, extroverts and dependency upon social networks or friends
    By Survive & Stay Free in forum General Psychology
    Replies: 18
    Last Post: 04-01-2012, 05:40 AM
  2. [NT] NTs and social anxiety
    By Take Five in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 31
    Last Post: 07-24-2009, 08:46 PM
  3. [NT] NT's and Social Stature
    By Cypocalypse in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 10-11-2008, 11:04 PM
  4. Relational Competition and "Social" Bullying
    By Maverick in forum General Psychology
    Replies: 58
    Last Post: 05-24-2007, 08:24 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO