Are you sure this is explicitely an issue of Ni? I always saw it as a problem of all N-doms, amongst others because it's quite familiar to me; Also, as far as I heard, many other ENxPs claim that frequently people are very irritated by them, respectively don't really understand them at all(and the other way 'round).
Being misunderstood is not the key observation, and being misunderstood and regarded as irritating is rather different from being misunderstood and regarded as perceptive. ENxPs perceptions have a good deal in common with Si perceptions: even as Ne ventures abroad exploring ideas from all sources, the ideas are eventually anchored in common Si foundations. Ni isn't as mystical as many describe, but there is a reason it is regarded as such: most people don't look at the world in an Ni way.
An argument is two people sharing their ignorance.
A discussion is two people sharing their understanding, even when they disagree.