yeah, i used to watch him with our group of friends and how he controlled them all with what they would do on their guys nights out, playing games etc.INTJs have more of a way of guiding that may eventually make me feel like "wow you were right" even if I began arguing with them. That's why I find them so fascinating and charming. It's quiet control without being openly controlling. It's like "whoa! how you do that?"
one memorable time they were playing a game of AoE2 together, and it was him against the 5 of them. They started forming an army outside of his gates and he hadnt made a single combat unit yet so he simply posted a "hey guys, are you sure you want to start something now? Are you sure you're ready?" They promptly backed off and milled about somewhere else because they were freaked out. Meanwhile... he built up a giant army and slaughtered them all one by one. It was hilarious.
He had built up a reputation of being really good at these games, and he was, but he told me his secret was that he had built it up in their minds that he was good... and had already defeated them there before the game even started.