User Tag List

123 Last

Results 1 to 10 of 38

  1. #1
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    May 2010
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    8
    Posts
    106

    Default Dating vs. studying

    There's this girl I know from university. I think she's attracted to me, and I'm attracted to her, too, somehow. She's probably INFx, I'm INTJ.

    I don't know whether I should ask her out, now that I've already planned my semester. I don't want to fall in love with her and see my studying derailed.

    I was thinking of asking her at the end of the semester so we could meet during the summer vacation. And just have conversations till then. Do you think that is a good idea?

  2. #2
    Senior Member Nicodemus's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    9,129

    Default

    I think it is doable. But: Do you really need all the studying? And: How important is she, how urgent is the attraction? Prioritize.

  3. #3
    libtard SJW chickpea's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    4w5 sx/sp
    Posts
    4,960

    Default

    you can't do both?

  4. #4
    royal member Rasofy's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    5w6 sp/sx
    Posts
    5,932

    Default

    She might meet someone else in the meantime.
    By then, you may end up in the friend zone and possibly in a platonic relationship that would last about 2 years.
    She might think you are gay. Ok, that is unlikely.
    Just giving some food for tought, I can't really point which should be your priorities.

  5. #5
    No moss growing on me Giggly's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    iSFj
    Enneagram
    2 sx/so
    Posts
    9,666

    Default

    Focus on your studies. Girls will be there afterwards.

  6. #6
    Senior Member King sns's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    enfp
    Enneagram
    6w7 sp/sx
    Socionics
    IEE
    Posts
    6,748

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by chana View Post
    you can't do both?
    Yea... I don't see why not. Are you in med school or something?
    06/13 10:51:03 five sounds: you!!!
    06/13 10:51:08 shortnsweet: no you!!
    06/13 10:51:12 shortnsweet: go do your things and my things too!
    06/13 10:51:23 five sounds: oh hell naw
    06/13 10:51:55 shortnsweet: !!!!
    06/13 10:51:57 shortnsweet: (cries)
    06/13 10:52:19 RiftsWRX: You two are like furbies stuck in a shoe box

    My Nohari
    My Johari
    by sns.

  7. #7
    resonance entropie's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    MBTI
    entp
    Enneagram
    783
    Posts
    16,761

    Default

    One thing's for sure, you'll regret that you missed to do one thing later, be it studieing or dating.

    I advise you to compromise. Turn in some dating for some studieing, but tell her too that you are pretty occupied at the moment; if she likes you she'll understand. Just prove it to her that you are REALLY studieing or she may think you are just playing with her.

    Imo it is always the best approach to balance things out, that way you prolly wont get rich in money, but in luck and wisdom
    [URL]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEBvftJUwDw&t=0s[/URL]

  8. #8
    Senior Member INTPness's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Posts
    2,158

    Default

    Or you could make like an INTP and do "neither". Drop out of school and don't court the girl.

    I'm just saying, it leaves more time for reading.

    (I'm also joking. I'm sure someone would have said, "That's HORRIBLE advice!")
    NTJ's are the only types that have ever made me feel emo.
    ENP's are the only types that have ever made me feel like a sensor.


    There are two great days in a person's life - the day we are born and the day we discover why. --William Barclay

  9. #9
    ReflecTcelfeR
    Guest

    Default

    As long as your priorities are straight and she respects the conditions being made I don't see why you can't have both, just let her know that at the time being school is slightly (good word to use) above her as of now, though once things quiet down you'll put her straight to the top, next to family if you believe in putting them above all else.

    This is what I would do if I ran into your problem.

  10. #10
    libtard SJW chickpea's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    4w5 sx/sp
    Posts
    4,960

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ReflecttcelfeR View Post
    As long as your priorities are straight and she respects the conditions being made I don't see why you can't have both, just let her know that at the time being school is slightly (good word to use) above her as of now, though once things quiet down you'll put her straight to the top, next to family if you believe in putting them above all else.

    This is what I would do if I ran into your problem.
    noooo bad idea. never tell a girl something is above her, even if it is and even if you say slightly. just say you need to focus on school right now, and might not have as much time to spend with her as you want right now, but after the semester you're all hers.

Similar Threads

  1. Video case study of Extroverted Feeling vs. Introverted Feeling
    By Economica in forum Myers-Briggs and Jungian Cognitive Functions
    Replies: 38
    Last Post: 08-22-2013, 12:41 AM
  2. studying one thing vs studying everything?
    By xisnotx in forum Academics and Careers
    Replies: 16
    Last Post: 12-01-2011, 02:35 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO