Well, when I come in, I usually sit there, silently, for the first 30 minutes, listen to people/give their ideas, nod, and write down what they say; basically, just allowing them to voice their opinions and ideas.
Then I take over.
Nothing I hate more than an extroverted whore and a sweet talker during group meetings. The only thing that can redeem them is their actual work output.
I used to be the silent one in grade school, but I've gotten a lot better with that as an adult. Now I'm often the information giver, occasional critic (pointing out flaws or potential problems), and I can be the organizer and planner if no one else steps up to do it.
(Causally) I chose the mediator because I like harmony with the group. However I don't like group harmony so much that I will risk my individual harmony too much or too often. Thus either lazy mediator or other. Probably Tag-along would be a closer description.
In more formal group meetings (i.e. work/business related). I would say that I am either a brainstormer or instigator/rebel.
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Originally Posted by Edgar
Spamtar - a strange combination of boorish drunkeness and erudite discussions, or what I call "an Irish academic"
If I know much about the topic, information provider. If not, I simply listen to the others and try to identify logical errors & point them out. In both cases, I additionally make lame jokes all the time.
They say I only think in form of crunching numbers.....
-Fall Out Boy
If there is no other good leader, I usually am the leader in the end. (This is the case about 60 percent of the time.) If there is a good leader, I am the rule abider. I just do what I'm told. If there's a bad leader, I'm the silent one, I'd rather let the boat sink than try to push someone out of their spot. I'd rather not do anything at all rather than get caught up in the drama of having a bad leader. Usually when I'm in a leadership role in a group I let others share all their ideas with me and then come up with a fuzzy big picture. I then delegate a bunch of tasks (based on everyone's strengths) to be brought to and regathered by me. I give everyone a rough outline of what I think we should do. (With openness to ideas for changing the plan.) I then keep reorganizing and delegating tasks until the project looks good.
Only big complaints I've gotten is that people were nervous because they weren't sure what the whole project was going to look like in the end, or complaints about the time crunch. (Don't let a P lead then! It was your waiting around for a leader that brought a P to the position on the first place and got us in a time crunch! )
Edit: In work meetings. I am "The Sleeper".... "The Dunkin Donuts drinker" ... or "The Socializer" (Smiling and waving around at people or cracking the occasional joke in the middle of the meeting.) Meetings are so stupid though. Don't even get me started about meetings.
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