Just exploring one of my half-assed theories. I've noticed that the INTJ men I've known have a strong, positive response to people who are genuinely kind to them or others. Particularly if it's a strong, nurturing sort of kindness. I had this realization one night after an interaction with an INTJ I was dating. (He jokingly asked me to do something ridiculously nice for him, expecting that I would understand he was joking but I didn't and started to fulfill said request. He stopped me with surprise and I got the most affectionate hug from him. And after that, we seemed to descend to a new level of closeness.) Before this incident, he had always said that he liked that I was kind, though it worried him sometimes in case I got taken advantage of. (I always assured him that the way I acted was a deliberate choice and reminded him that there are consequences for all behavior.)
So, INTJ men, are you particularly affected or impressed by genuine kindness? Is kindness something you value and if so, do you actively look for this quality in a partner? Also, if so, are you conversely turned off by people who are cruel?