When everything I do or think contravenes my love-sober philosophy on life. In other words, I catch SFP syndrome.How do you know when you love someone?
Well, of course!Do you treat them any differently than you treat everyone else?
I'm in whirlpool of mixed emotions and question marks. The first question is ask is - How far can this go? I don't want to go on an emotional roller-coaster ride for six months to find out, I want to know first hand. With the majority of SFs, this is nearly impossible. My goal is to settle in a long term relationship that would ultimately lead to marriage. Anything beyond that does not warrant my full devotion and attention, I categorize everything else under "playing the field" or "friendship." I play games for a few weeks, then I find out where the person belongs in my life. If there is genuine interest, I pursue it. If it was a hyped-up idle affair, then I withdraw any feelings and consider the person a friend permanently.How do you feel (yes, feel) around them?
Cake.How hard was it for you to get over them?
The first 48 hours I have this sour feeling or aftershock, I remind myself that it's a natural human response (like a cut or scrape) and I will get over it soon. Two days later, the sour feeling is gone, I pat myself on the back and the bitch is a shadow in my mind. Thereafter, get back to work, take an exotic vacation, hang out with my buddies, enjoy life, and wait for the next opportunity.
Love is simple. Just have a plan to direct your emotions, enforce the plan regardless of how you "feel," and know when to detour when you find out you're on the road to nowhere.