As an ISFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally (someTimes)
) where you takes things in via your five senses in a literal, concrete fashion. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value system
[colo="red"]]("fit", as in, internal consistency of morality/value/ethics/goodness/minimixing harm, maximizing potential -the collective and the individual; what it sums up to, does it make sense for alll concerned, connected, affected?[/color]
ISFJs live in a world that is concrete and kind. They are truly warm and kind-hearted, and want to believe the best of people. They value harmony (that's why I get attracted to chaos...due to a wish to make order, out of....)
and cooperation, and are likely to be
very sensitive to other people's feelings (but, paradoxically, or because of it, not as quickly to my own, I revolve around the 3rd person perspective, often, too frequently sometimes)
. People value [...] for their consideration and awareness, and their ability to bring out the best in others by their firm desire to believe the best. (optimism is the name of the head game)
[...] have a rich inner world that is not usually obvious to observers. They constantly take in information about people and situations that is personally important to them, and store it away. (important, as in, important to my curiosity, too, in addition to deeping my own understanding of my core values/ethics...how best I should navigate this world)
This tremendous store of information is usually startlingly accurate, because the [...] has an exceptional memory about things that are important to their value systems. It would not be uncommon for the [...] to remember a particular facial expression or conversation in precise detail years after the event occured, if the situation made an impression on the [...] (if you tickle my curiosity, in any depth, good, bad or ugly, I will remember you)
ISFJs have a very clear idea of the way things should be, which they strive to attain. They value
security and kindness
, and respect traditions and laws. They tend to believe that existing systems are there because they work. (to a degree, as reliability testing is informative and valuable, but there must always be room for progress, to maximize potential while minimizing collective harm...looking to the future as a reason to know what of the past to hang on to and what of the past to learn from and thus, let go, and move on....)
Therefore, they're not likely to buy into doing things in a new way, unless they're shown
in a concrete way why its better than the established method. YES!! The benefit must > the cost, as a reason to put in the effort in the first place, unless it's solely curiosity-driven, but, even still, I'm very practically oriented....what does it do? how will it realistically help/improve/teach us something more?
ISFJs learn best by doing, rather than by reading about something in a book, or applying theory. For this reason, they are not likely to be found in fields which require a lot of conceptual analysis or theory. They value practical application.
Traditional methods of higher education, which require a lot of theorizing and abstraction, are likely to be a chore for the ISFJ. The ISFJ learns a task
best by being shown its practical application
. Once the task is learned, and its practical importance is understood, the ISFJ will faithfully and tirelessly carry through the task to completion. The ISFJ is extremely dependable.
The ISFJ has an extremely well-developed sense of space, function, and aesthetic appeal. For that reason, they're likely to have beautifully furnished, functional homes. They make
extremely good interior decorators
. (or maybe, just me
) This special ability, combined with their sensitivity to other's feelings and desires, makes them very likely to be great gift-givers
- finding the right gift which will be truly appreciated by the recipient.
( I'm often told that I give great gifts
More so than other types, ISFJs are extremely aware of their own internal feelings, as well as other people's feelings. They do not usually express their own feelings, keeping things inside. (it takes times for me to formulate into words what I'm feeling, personally. A battle to logically rationalize it away versus figuring out the language of my emotions)
If they are negative feelings, they may build up inside the ISFJ until they turn into firm judgments against individuals which are difficult to unseed, once set. Many ISFJs learn to express themselves, and find outlets for their powerful emotions.
Just as the ISFJ is not likely to express their feelings, they are also not likely to let on that they know how others are feeling. However, they will speak up when they feel another individual really needs help, and in such cases they can truly help others become aware of their feelings.(i'm very much of the belief in minimum/non-interference, unless [potential for] harm is being done
The [...] feels a strong sense of responsibility
and duty. They take their responsibilities very seriously, and can be counted on to follow through. For this reason, people naturally tend to rely on them. The ISFJ has a difficult time saying "no" when asked to do something, and may become over-burdened. In such cases, the ISFJ does not usually express their difficulties to others, because they intensely dislike conflict, and because they tend to place other people's needs over their own. The ISFJ needs to learn to identify, value, and express their own needs, if they wish to avoid becoming over-worked and taken for granted.
ISFJs need positive feedback from others. In the absence of positive feedback,
or in the face of criticism, the [...] gets discouraged, and may even become depressed. When down on themselves or under great stress, the ISFJ begins to imagine all of the things that might go critically wrong in their life. They have
strong feelings of inadequacy, and become convinced that "everything is all wrong", or "I can't do anything right". (when, in those extreme cases, optimism is blown out, pessimism is darker than the pitched black in myself, so melodramatic)
The [...] is warm (? - depends), generous,
(to a point, I also like to be fair, to the other AND myself, both)
and dependable. They have many special gifts to offer, in their sensitivity to others, and their strong ability to keep things running smoothly. They need to remember to not be overly critical of themselves,
(I can be my own worst critic and I can be too-harsh a judge on myself...very internally driven, no one ever really knows, is aware, how twistedly I can berate myself
) and to give themselves some of the warmth and love which they freely dispense to others.