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  • You always pay!

    1 4.55%
  • You *generally* pay but date pays on occasion.

    3 13.64%
  • You pay until she/he puts out. (or some variant)

    0 0%
  • 100% dutch, all the way.

    3 13.64%
  • The person who initiates the date pays.

    6 27.27%
  • Case-by-case basis, based on factors such as relative income.

    7 31.82%
  • You don't date.

    1 4.55%
  • Other. (please explain)

    1 4.55%
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    Default NTs and pickin' up the tab?

    NTs, when you're dating a girl, what % of the time do you pick up the tab? what are your thoughts on this, expectations?
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    Mostly it is about who initiates the date. Typically the man pays for the initial dates. However, when you start "dating "a person to the point of commitment it should be closer to equal (although man pays a bit more when in doubt)
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    Quote Originally Posted by spamtar View Post
    Mostly it is about who initiates the date. Typically the man pays for the initial dates. However, when you start "dating "a person to the point of commitment it should be closer to equal (although man pays a bit more when in doubt)
    This. I'm all for equal rights though. Depends on the type of date too, sometimes its dutch if is is more of an online meet 'non-date' to see if both parties want to pursue it further.

    Women's opinions vary wildly in my experience. I've dated/met women who think men should ALWAYS pay in a relationship, women who are very independent and never like you to pay for anything and everything in between.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ScorpioINTP View Post
    Women's opinions vary wildly in my experience. I've dated/met women who think men should ALWAYS pay in a relationship, women who are very independent and never like you to pay for anything and everything in between.
    how'd you react to her/them thinking that men should always pay?
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    It really all depends on the money situation at that time.

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    As a girl I appreciate the "going Dutch" approach where you pay for one date, I pay for the next, you the next, etc.

    It's less messy than splitting the tab, but I guess it only works if you're in an established relationship and there's a good chance you'll be going on more dates in the future.

    For first dates most guys (yes, this includes NTs) tend to seem adamant on paying and who am I to "damage their egos" or whatever? I get free dinner! *bonus*

    But I tend to feel uncomfortable if the guys pays for everything all the time. It doesn't make sense, either, if we're both working adults capable of paying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by agentfurrina View Post
    how'd you react to her/them thinking that men should always pay?
    Sounds sexist

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beargryllz View Post
    Sounds sexist
    ha, fair enough. meant "you".
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    i dont date, but i think its a nice thing to do from a guy to pay. at least on the first dates, but if the guy if broke and girls swims in the cash, you could mention that you cant really afford feeding you so often in expensive restaurants if you need to pay for both. small stuff like ice creams etc on the guy. i guess it kinda depends on many thing. i think it would be rude from a girl to eat with 80€ and then expect that ofc the guy will pay, even it havent been talked about.
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    If it was a date I'd offer to pay, in a relationship things tend to be more even.

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