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    Default ENTPs unable to differentiate people??

    So I have heard one of you fellow ENTPs comment how you are unable to differentiate people. Hence, you wind up dating SFJs, ENFJs, etc. that end up failing.

    I guess I just don't quite understand this because you guys can clearly intuitively read people upon meeting them, but how do you end up in such situations??

    Its difficult for me to fathom because as an INFJ I intuitively pick up on things with people and know if I will successfully be friends or date them. If I intuitively read that someone is too immature for me them I just simply choose to keep them at a distance.

    Please explain...

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    Don't relate, sorry. I can differentiate people fine, the only thing I can think of that may be seen as similar is I simply won't judge people for their shortcomings, I'll give anyone a shot and be friends with nearly anyone.

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    I don't really understand your question.
    Differentiating, how? By type???
    I usually accept anybody and everybody as colleague or aquaintance. I'm quite naive and assume a stranger will be okay with me :-)
    Pursuing the process and creating a friendship is a more tough hurdle, both for me and for the other. I tend to forget names, even if I like the person and we had a great time together. I usually initiate friendships (and try to remember names) when there are some common interests. Of course a friendship (or a romantic relationship) can fail sooner or later... but that doesn't only occur to ENTPs, you know.
    I don't differentiate by type. Why should I? What's wrong with dating SFJs and ENFJs? Why assume it would fail before trying? We (ENTPs) tend to try and fail rather than be afraid of trying!
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    Yeah, better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all.
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    Nah..I see right through them usually. Could it be an ENTP who hasn't developed their Ti or doesn't really pay much attention to their Ne...
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    Fact: Most men date women because of their looks.

    Type is irrelevant.

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    Quote Originally Posted by guesswho View Post
    Fact: Most men date women because of their looks.
    Type is irrelevant.
    Lol.

    I'd also say not to underestimate the power of the xNTP flex, especially for the ENTPs.

    Just because you CAN flex to another person and make yourself fit doesn't mean you should, if the flex is too severe. Flexers have a harder time knowing when to stand ground and compensate for any inequity/congruence in the relationship.
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    well I don't know, I suppose personality matters more when you grow.

    And ENTP ENFJ is a good match.


    ...I don't know what flex means.

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    Failing is a matter of perspective.

    I enjoy challenges and what I can learn from them. If I date someone radically different from me, I may not win a "successful" relationship, but I'll win learning how to be in a relationship with someone radically different from me.

    Yeah, it might mean I don't have much luck in being in committed, healthy, complementary relationships, but that's not always the point. :P

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