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    I never liked dancing myself. I am way too self conscious for one. "Dance music" has never made me feel like dancing and I generally don't like pop music as such. There are quite a few rock songs that make me feel like dancing (in private only) and ideally with a guitar in hand as if it was me on stage playing like Jimmy Page or ______. Not really dancing in the traditional sense. A master guitar player really makes me feel the music. Repetitive "beat" music irritates me. I see some people who can't help themselves but to dance when they hear music in public like some pavlovian response and makes me wonder.

    I think if I ever was going to like to dance it would have had to be back in the pre-disco days when dancing was a more traditional courtship thing. You know like the tango or something (it takes two). :-). The whole solo club dancing thing I don't really get and it sends mixed signals. I can't quite grasp the whole "lets go out and dance" for the sake of dancing concept. Crowds of sweaty, smokey, drunk obnoxious people and awful loud music is not my idea of fun. I'm Not sure if that is an NT thing or just my shyness/self consciousness. I also don't get the wanting to watch "dancing with the stars" type shows either. I can appreciate dance in a theater play or something if it is graceful, but when I see Beyonce dance on a TV commercial it makes me cringe. She is an amazon and tall people (like me) don't dance well in general.

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    Generally I feel like I can dance way better than I actually can. So I feel like a sexy mofo, but I just look like an awkward girl who thinks she's sexy.

    But I love dancing....it's just better on my integrity if I do it alone.

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    Excerpted from something else I wrote. This pretty much nails it. I struggle to think of any social activity as acutely unpleasant.

    But fast dancing is just the most terrifying experience I can imagine. I can count the number of times I’ve done it on one hand and have enough fingers left over to type this story at a pretty good clip. And those few times I did do it, I was lubricated by enough beer to drown a horse. Allow me to explain what happens in my brain when I’m dancing. Imagine that you are on the dance floor among a crowd of people. Further imagine that not only are you in your underwear, but that your underwear is Wonder Woman Underoos. With a tear in the back. Under a spotlight. Now multiply that by ten, and you’re getting close to the abject fear involved here.
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    Thank you...

    Related: do you care if someone's a good dancer? Do you find it attractive? I used to think I cared until I finally danced with my bf of 5 years. I loved him and it was absolutely endearing but not unlike seeing the making of sausage.

    *unrelated: perhaps I should start an NF thread on this. I randomly polled three of my friends (who happened to be ENFxs) and some interesting patterns emerged: most of us feel more connected with our true selves when dancing; we often dive straight into the most crowded part of the dancefloor as soon as we walk in to a room where dancing is going on; and a few of us admitted to scrambling, billygoat style, to the highest point in the room and dancing alone on top of whatever we could find (speaker, pillar, support beam, etc.) for an odd strain of extrovert: the isolated exhibitionist. Also known as the uninvited go-go dancer.
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    I like it because dancing helps put me in touch with my feelings and unconscious. Also it has helped gotten me laid/make out sessions, so positive association too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EffEmDoubleyou View Post
    Excerpted from something else I wrote. This pretty much nails it. I struggle to think of any social activity as acutely unpleasant.

    Allow me to explain what happens in my brain when I’m dancing. Imagine that you are on the dance floor among a crowd of people. Further imagine that not only are you in your underwear, but that your underwear is Wonder Woman Underoos. With a tear in the back. Under a spotlight. Now multiply that by ten, and you’re getting close to the abject fear involved here.
    hilarious. and adorable. so would you appreciate a kindly extrovert leading the way on the dancefloor, or would you rather be left alone in your equine state of inebriation?
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    Quote Originally Posted by spamtar View Post
    I like it because dancing helps put me in touch with my feelings and unconscious. Also it has helped gotten me laid/make out sessions, so positive association too.
    excellent point. probably a great place to meet extroverts (duh). naturally, i find the quiet one off by himself and drag him onto the dancefloor. a good friend always reminds me of the fact that I requested "Baby Got Back" at her wedding, got everyone riled up, and proceeded to mount her aged uncle. so, dear NTs, you're not alone in awkwardness...you probably just are better at preserving your dignity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by agentfurrina View Post
    hilarious. and adorable. so would you appreciate a kindly extrovert leading the way on the dancefloor, or would you rather be left alone in your equine state of inebriation?
    Hmm. I would appreciate the sentiment behind that, because I do think that extroverts mean well when they try to pull us out of ourselves. But at the same time I can't help but think (assuming I didn't just meet her) that it also means she doesn't know me so well. I know this isn't necessarily fair, because not everyone understands how really introverted people work (especially ones who are also shy). But the gut reaction is "why are you doing this to me?" instead of "thank you for trying to help me".
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    Hate it. Hate it hate it hate it hate it.

    Except slow dancing, that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EffEmDoubleyou View Post
    Hmm. I would appreciate the sentiment behind that, because I do think that extroverts mean well when they try to pull us out of ourselves. But at the same time I can't help but think (assuming I didn't just meet her) that it also means she doesn't know me so well. I know this isn't necessarily fair, because not everyone understands how really introverted people work (especially ones who are also shy). But the gut reaction is "why are you doing this to me?" instead of "thank you for trying to help me".
    hmm. i've found that being friendly (not pushy, but in a sincere way) or downright silly* tends to disarm the loner on the periphery of the dancefloor. mainly because i find in them a potential playmate.

    *which, i admit to my everlasting shame (or not), has occasionally included doing the Chicken to/before them. i'm a fool that way.
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