Possibly, but even when I do throw out some vibes of interest, after people get to know me they don't really bother putting time or effort into pursuing anything romantic with me. I have only encountered people who are all sex, sex, sex & there is always something else with two legs walking across campus that is easier & quicker to catch. I cannot really say I am unhappy with my position though, I am quite pleased to be able to make friends without having to worry about them trying anything funny. But who knows when that could change, I don't want to shove myself into a dark corner and not be able to get out again, haha.
Ah yes. I have myself had pretty much the same experience. Even when I am interested I always miss the romance thing with people too. Always end up with the situation of being either 'just a friend' or a 'just a friend + sex'. :rolli: But never anything that gets to the romantic stage.
There's one thing about the INTP that I dont fit well with. Im actually very comfortable with my feelings, and im actually very quick to let my significant other know.
After reading through some INTP responses that doesn't seem to be the norm?
Frankly, I think that's misunderstood about INTPs. When one is comfortable, feelings do come out. At least when they aren't being asked or perceiving to be problem solving with that person/people. Also, as one ages, they tend to come out more. But, usually, discussions about INTPs and feelings are slanted to their preferred method of operation in problem solving, communicating, etc. I really haven't seen any discussions about how they just express themselves in relationships. In fact, with those who know types and get to know me, they're usually surprised at how much feeling I can express.... but, those are a very select few I feel "safe" with.
I have an INTP best friend who's been mooning about her other friend for so long I feel like picking up a frying pan, hitting her on the head and telling her to either make a move or move on. It's so annoying.
After reading this thread, I suppose that it's just an INTP thing to do. I mean an immature INTP thing to do, of course.
I've found that I tend to put myself into the friend zone before I have a chance to be put there. It's probably a reaction mechanism because I am honestly quite scared to open myself up to a guy until I've known him a while and have had an opportunity to feel comfortable enough to explore what my feelings are. This doesn't work out well, though, because then I get stuck in the friend zone. sigh...
I would never be friends with someone I had strong feelings for. I don't think this is a good trait but I don't plan on changing it. I I fell for an INTP at work and when I realized the same thing wasn't coming from him (I have no idea why I had initial optimism) I avoided him. Now I make myself be polite, but would never be more than polite. Luckily I recently lost interest due to recent observations anyway. I still wouldn't be friends with someone I once had feelings for either. Well I think there would be resentment or maybe feelings would come back. (I mean in general in that kind of situation.)
I have a few INTP friends that get friend zoned with their crushes all the time, because they lack initiative.
I'd have to say this is probably the most accurate statement. I don't think INTP's are manipulative or have ulterior motives so they aren't likely to be friend zoned for negative reasons such as that. I think it just comes down to putting all the analysis and thinking down and being willing and able to act on your feelings once in a while, because more likely than not when someone is consistently around an INTP and shows an interest it is because of genuine interest.
To be honest, it is pretty hard to take action with asking friends out.
I feel a lot more comfortable asking a random girl I met at a party than I would asking a friend out. The random girl doesn't know my vulnerabilities- so that adds to the comfort level obviously and if she's cute- if she says yes- it's . If she says no, whatever, it's not like I knew her that well anyway.
I recently asked a friend out. She said no. I'm surprised because she's so fucking clingy to me. It supports my theory that I'm more likely to find love in a bar. This girl acts kind of stupid at times anyway.