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    Default INTJ going for a coffe with a ESFP girl tomorrow. tips?

    Any don`t do tips? etc.

    any spesifics i should look for that might couse trouble. I have a lot of things on my mind but im thinking you guys have some aditional.

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    About her.
    She got a kid. A daughter. Likes a series called bones. she knows how to answer, because her dad allways trew out remarks or something.

    I like that because its nothing worse than someone that just keeps it inside until they explode on you.

    On the phone she likes to get feedback, just so she knows you are there.
    And she sort of confirms she lissens when you talk. mhm etc.

    Got a job as a nurse assistant i guess. She says she is quite open about things.

    She posted the MBTI results and was fairly balansed. particullary the S/N

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    Find something she likes to talk about (probably something she has done) and let her talk.

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    Encourage her to talk about herself, smile and be genuinely interested.

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    Things that would get you in trouble - don't be negative or critical.

    I guess this is all just common sense.

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    Your goal is to get to know her, not to impress her.

    If you actively try to understand her and learn about her, you will impress her. If you try to impress her, you won't get to know her AND you won't impress her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by uumlau View Post
    Your goal is to get to know her, not to impress her.

    If you actively try to understand her and learn about her, you will impress her. If you try to impress her, you won't get to know her AND you won't impress her.
    I don't think so, I think a woman would want to be impressed. You can get to know her if she finds you attractive enough. If she just wanted to talk and get emotionally intimate, I think she would've done it in a private setting and after a sequential amount of dates. OP is going to starbucks on a first date. Impress her OP.

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    Quote Originally Posted by daftpunkcrunk View Post
    I don't think so, I think a woman would want to be impressed. You can get to know her if she finds you attractive enough. If she just wanted to talk and get emotionally intimate, I think she would've done it in a private setting and after a sequential amount of dates. OP is going to starbucks on a first date. Impress her OP.
    Yeah, the problem is that it's actually quite hard to impress someone with achievements, possessions and bragging, a little self-confidence and a good personality get you so much further.

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