So, growing up and all throughout high school and college, I have been very reserved in social situations. I wasn't socially incapable, I just preferred a lot less socialization than others even though I did it a lot of times just to sort of fit in. Although I was a pretty "smooth" person in small group settings where I was comfortable with everyone, parties and large groups of people made me feel uncomfortable and I wasn't outgoing and couldn't (or maybe didn't want to) express the real me.
Ok so I've graduated now and after a year of what most would call social isolation, I feel completely different. I have become very outgoing and confident in big groups and when there's an awkward silence I try to fix it. I'm quicker to come up with things to say to people I've just met and I've learned to play the small talk game. I used to be careful of what I said, and now I just don't really care and say it anyway...it turns out that the stuff that I thought was not worth saying is good enough to get some attention and laughs and what not
I'm not sure what I'm asking here..I guess I'm just wondering if this sort of transformation has been experienced by any of you very introverted INTJs and if so, when? (I'm almost 25). The thing is, I'm just as introverted as before...it's almost as if I just kind of woke up with good social skills. I feel a strange urge to try to make connections with people just for kicks while before I wasn't really interested in getting to know strangers unless I had to...The trigger... Age? Depriving myself of a "healthy social life" for a while? You would think that practicing social interaction would help as opposed to avoiding it completely for a long time like I did haha. What do you guys think?