I just went back and re-read this thread. I now understand why I have such a disconnect with the description of the traditional family. It centers around the concept of completeness of personhood. I was complete before I got married. I didn't need security because I had been secure and independent for years prior. My husband was complete and independent long before he was introduced to me. He didn't need a housekeeper because he already employed one. As two complete people our before marriage conversations answered the questions of duties and how they would be carried out. He knew it was a deal breaker to step on my independence. I knew it was a deal breaker to stand in the way of his ambition. We respected each other from before our marriage. I never feel needy, and he never feels stifled. We both have the freedom to grow and develop our skill sets for living in the way we see fit. We do not complain. We confront problems head on and adjust what is necessary and equatable.
Traditional marriage that starts from this foundation does not go through those cultural stereo types. It is grounded in something greater than daily duties and responsibilities. This is what both of us witnessed of our own parents and grandparents on how to establish a home. It can work with the right foundation laid.
we live in different worlds.