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    Default Infantile- NT Romance

    interest is sparked in partner with positive aesthetic attributes divorced from active, "aggressive" sexuality
    tend to try to attract partner's interest with joking, goofy or even "strange" behavior
    try to help partner see the unexpected and fun side of things
    interest is maintained or cools off according to partner's response to this behavior
    appreciation for partner who actively cares about the individual's comfort and daily needs
    neutral with regard to externally admitting who took the initiative in ending a relationship, "power" is seen as unimportant in such matters

    This romance style is defined by focus on which is static, irrational, and extroverted, with perceptions focused on possibilities and alternatives to the static present reality, which the individual perceives as intrinsically boring and stagnant. This means that an Infantile sees attraction between two individuals as a static state, also from the point of view of the other person, which he tries to "get moving" by actively thinking of variations of the present static state. This accounts for an Infantile's inclination to focus on the mutual attraction, or particularly the attraction felt by the other person, as connected to that person's being exposed to the unexpected, imaginative, fun, even "weird" side of life, reality, and each other, a behavior that can be described as "childlike". This focus leads to a sort of helplessness regarding his own physical well being as perceived by , so he welcomes help from others in that area.

    Perception of other romance styles
    This refers to perceptions of the partner in a romantic or prospective relationship.


    Aggressor: Infantiles tend to perceive Aggressors as a bit too "rough" and even slightly scary on occasion, or perhaps just as obnoxious

    Victim: Infantiles tend to perceive Victims as paranoid and confusing, giving mixed signals.

    Caregiver: Infantiles tend to perceive Caregivers as comforting and pleasant company, with a delightful sense of fun.

    Infantile: Infantiles tend to perceive other Infantiles as fun to spend time with but also as helpless and demanding in a way that they see as stressful.

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    I'm wondering how many ENTPs can relate to this, because I thought ENTPs were meant to be more like aggressors or something.

    Also INTPs/INTJs, as it is supposedly extraverted in style, I would expect it to almost clash a little?
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    I see a lot of myself in that description.

    Surely there's a more neutral, yet appropriate descriptor of this pattern of behavior than "infantile." Perhaps playful or reactive.
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    So is this the supposed romantic style of all NTs? I'd say it is more likely to be for NPs, both I and E. I'm not sure but I don't think ENTPs are very aggressive in relationships. This is about fun, joking, but caring strongly about the other party, which I think is common in most or all NPs. Wouldn't be wuite so sure about NTJs.
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    Quote Originally Posted by suttree View Post
    I see a lot of myself in that description.

    Surely there's a more neutral, yet appropriate descriptor of this pattern of behavior than "infantile." Perhaps playful or reactive.
    I think the idea is that Infantiles pair well with Caregivers. Hence the name, as insulting as it is lol.

    Quote Originally Posted by mrsherlockholmes View Post
    So is this the supposed romantic style of all NTs? I'd say it is more likely to be for NPs, both I and E. I'm not sure but I don't think ENTPs are very aggressive in relationships. This is about fun, joking, but caring strongly about the other party, which I think is common in most or all NPs. Wouldn't be wuite so sure about NTJs.
    The thing is, it belongs to ILE and LII, ILE generally corresponds to ENTP, and LII is usually either INTJ or INTP. I certainly know an INTJ who is like this, and there's likely a few on this forum who are LIIs.

    I'm starting to think it's the extravertedness that drives these sort of relationships, which might seem like aggressiveness.

    btw, why would it necessarily be common to NPs?
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    Quote Originally Posted by King-Of-Despair View Post
    btw, why would it necessarily be common to NPs?
    I believe Fe, even though it tertiary and inferior causes us to focus on others, when we decide to do so. This however is really only with NTP. I consider myself 'infantile' when it comes to relationships. I am not an aggressor, but though the caregiver sounds nice, I suppose I do view relationships as neutral more often than not. This would explain my ability to perceive mulitple attractions at once. I don't view relationships as what 'won't' work most of the time.

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    I definitely relate to that description. Can't stand aggressors.
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    Quote Originally Posted by King-Of-Despair View Post
    Infantiles tend to perceive Victims as paranoid and confusing, giving mixed signals.
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    I pretty much completely relate with that description

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    Quite accurate of me, indeed.

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    I guess it describes a part of me. I do perceive a lot of things as being static, annoyingly static. And screwing with all the traditional static things around me is a big pleasure of mine. Chaos is needed to counterballance the order of things.

    Don't know if that makes me 'infantile' , I'd rather call this playfulness. But in the eyes of many people, which I do perceive as being static, it's 'infantile'.

    It's a P thing.
    SPs can be like this too, but slightly different. They will most likely come up with fun activities, going somewhere and doing something.
    NPs are more likely to come up with games, perspectives, ideas, and less sporty activities.

    About the ENTPs being aggressors.
    I guess this is where the ennegram comes in to explain.
    Most ENTPs are type 7s.
    So from this perspective, the 7w8 will be more aggresive that the 7w6. Still being more aggressive won't make you an 'aggressor'. Most ENTPs are not aggressors.

    The aggressor is a TJ thing mostly. And it's annoying.

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