Hi everyone, relatively new to this forum, but not to myerrs briggs/socionics. I'm an ENFP, recently got out of a r/t with a guy who I'm pretty sure was INTP, may have been INTJ.
When we first met, he seemed very sincere, interested, honest. The connection was very easy to maintain and it did not feel like I had to do anything help things from progressing. About a month ago my intuitive spidey senses went off and I started to feel like something was just not right. Long story short, I ended up finding out that he was very dishonest with me and also seeing many different people on the side, after we had talked about being monogomous and exlusive...
When I confronted him about it, he turned the situation on me, avoided the evidence against him and blamed me for making him feel like I did not trust him and "needy".
I've always given him ample space and independance, I guess I had to because it was a semi-long distance r/t. About a 3 hour commute so we'd usually see each other on the weekends. The last month I do admit to being a little bit more curious about where he was...etc, but this was because my spidey senses were telling me something wasn't right, along with some sketchy behavior/explanations from him that just did not add up.
Can anyone give me some possibilities as to the thought process in his head to justify this? It's as if he does not feel guilty a tall about lying, cheating...any of it. I don't understand how someone can do this without atleast feeling a little bit bad about their actions.