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  • Mind - I'm a male NT

    25 33.33%
  • Mind - I'm a female NT

    18 24.00%
  • Body including face - I'm a male NT

    4 5.33%
  • Body including face - I'm a female NT

    1 1.33%
  • Heart - I'm a male NT

    19 25.33%
  • Heart - I'm a female NT

    8 10.67%
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    Default NTs - Most Important in a Partner

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    Mind - intellectual capacity
    Body - face and body
    Heart - emotional capacity

    Of the three listed, pick the most important in a partner.

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    All?
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    Pick the most important criteria. They can't all be equal.

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    Sorry, heart? I would combine heart and mind to character and choose that.

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    I'm probably going to go against the grain by saying this - but I'm going to choose "heart". here is my rationale:

    1) Having a mind meld with someone is great, no doubt, but I have realized the value of being able to find a partner that can offer me insight on areas that I don't usually see, like the realm of romantic gestures, and expressing tenderness. When I get that from somebody I am thrilled because I don't usually behave that way. It is an appreciation for someone who has something that I may not. It makes me feel like I can let my guard down a little instead of being so detached, like I would end up being with someone with a heavy focus on intellect. Don't get me wrong - I'm not looking for a drop in IQ or something - but I would like it if the relationship didn't have to be an analysis of everything all the time. I already do enough thinking and judging for my own good. Sometimes just going with the flow and expressing your feelings is the appropriate thing.

    2) The body's attraction is - obviously - a fleeting thing. While I'd hope that both myself and a partner could be attractive, I hold that with a slightly less equal weight than intellect. Plus, as we age the reality is that everything is just gonna get uglier as time goes on. I'd much rather have an endearing intellect or gentle spirit to relate to when I'm saggy and baggy.

    In the scheme of things, I'm probably looking at a point spread of MIND: 34% BODY: 28% HEART: 38% or something like that.
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    If you would have asked me before, I probably would have said something along the lines of everything. Now that I am older though, I could see myself saying something along the lines of,"Leave the thinking to me dear, why don't you just relax and look pretty for me...okay? I'll there in a second."

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    Heart
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    'Tis a tossup between mind and heart.

    Body is great, and I am highly superficial sometimes (aren't most of us?) but a man is a man and that is what counts.
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    I vote money. Just kidding. I think heart is the most important of the three. Mind doesn't mean much if the other person isn't loving or caring. Body is far the least important of the three. I still admit I would prefer someone attractive but I would far be more likely to seek a good heart and a good mind over a good body.
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    intellectual equality

    Best measured when going into bed with a woman. Only happend once so far in my life and before it happened I dint even know about it.
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