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[NT] NTs - Most Important in a Partner

Which is the most important asset in a partner?

  • Mind - I'm a male NT

    Votes: 25 35.7%
  • Mind - I'm a female NT

    Votes: 15 21.4%
  • Body including face - I'm a male NT

    Votes: 4 5.7%
  • Body including face - I'm a female NT

    Votes: 1 1.4%
  • Heart - I'm a male NT

    Votes: 17 24.3%
  • Heart - I'm a female NT

    Votes: 8 11.4%

  • Total voters
    70

entropie

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Nothing wrong with stability. But when it will be the moment it will need you to open up aswell. And i havent met an entp yet who isnt the master in talking about himself :)
 

Mondo

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Mind. A lot more women have sufficient emotional capacity than sufficient intellectual capacity. To avoid being sexist, the same goes for men.
 

entropie

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Mind. A lot more women have sufficient emotional capacity than sufficient intellectual capacity. To avoid being sexist, the same goes for men.

According to theoretical logic, wouldnt it be stupid to go for woman and not to be sexiest men then ?
 

Donna Cecilia

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Mind.

A man who I can communicate with in equal terms, who can get me mentally (mainly by having ideas of his own and a will to share them with me), can be considered relationship material. In order to mantain a loving relationship over time, intellectual stimulation works better for me than emotional stimuli and/or physical attraction.
 

Kenneth Almighty

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Three way tie.

If I had to prioritize, it would be close, with mind being first, body second, heart third.
 

Antimony

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I don't know what he is talking about.
 

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:peepwall:





:huh:

I am actually confused now.
 

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It’s not even close: Mind. I’m not sensitive enough that I need, or particularly want, anyone to understand me emotionally. I also agree with Mondo, in that individuals who focus on their mind are rare, and that I would prefer to be with someone who I can exchange ideas with and who can challenge me intellectually. Within my most preferred scenario I would marry a professional rival.

According to theoretical logic, wouldnt it be stupid to go for woman and not to be sexiest men then ?
Just because individuals who are “emotionally sufficient” are more common than those who are “intellectually sufficient” does not mean that one has to prefer them in a relationship. It’s the same with individuals who are more attracted to people possessing an above average physical appearance or socio-economical status.
 

rav3n

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These two threads were posted for contrast.

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Want to be valued for

Mind:
Male - 56.67%
Female - 30%

Body:
Male - 3.33%
Female - 0%

Heart:
Male - 10%
Female - 0%

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Value in a partner

Mind:
Male - 34.62%
Female - 30.77%

Body:
Male - 0%
Female - 3.85%

Heart:
Male - 26.92%
Female - 3.85%

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What do these figures represent to you?
 

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I think the poll results so far reflect a bit the influence that gender roles still have on people's preferences. NT men voted heart a lot more than NT women did.
 

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There are no right or wrong answers. Just interpretation of information. :)
 

Mondo

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I think the poll results so far reflect a bit the influence that gender roles still have on people's preferences. NT men voted heart a lot more than NT women did.

Probable but..
I think we need a larger "sample" size before making any solid conclusions though.
 

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Probable but..
I think we need a larger "sample" size before making any solid conclusions though.

Sure, of course. I wasn't trying to conclude anything. But I will say that it goes inline with my thoughts on the matter for a long time now.
 

JocktheMotie

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The mental connection is very important, I'm finding. I used to not think so.
 

LunarMoon

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I think the poll results so far reflect a bit the influence that gender roles still have on people's preferences. NT men voted heart a lot more than NT women did.
I would say so, as well. The results between the polls are a lot more consistent with women. I'd also expect that this is due to the fact that a Thinking female less directly reflects expected gender roles than a Thinking male does. A Thinking male not only satisfies what many NTs admire in a person in general but also does not conflict with how many women expect a man to act.
 

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The mental connection is very important, I'm finding. I used to not think so.

Ditto.

Being loved really isn't enough... I need that mental connection. It makes me feel understood.
 
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