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    It's so hard to really pinpoint a single birth experience as a definitive ... I have friends who LOVED it. Seriously. One friend said she could have had 10 kids no sweat; looked forward to labour and delivery. She would be a surrogate in a heartbeat.

    My experience is more to the middle I would say. Both of my labours were 12 hours, not super long but long enough. An 11th hour (literally) epidural in the first and natural for my second, to prove I was tough (yeah!) Birthing takes over your body, and you realize you have to give over to the power of the process. But it's so individual for each person. It is weird to imagine this little baby inside you; your body makes changes to accommodate them, not always comfortable; near the end you just want the baby to get born already!

    I grew up on a farm though and saw birthings regularly - maybe that's why it seems natural as a process. But I remember feeling weird to contemplate it happening to me ... I'll grant you that! Experientially interesting though. Too bad we can't make men go through it too!
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    Since I was very young, like nine or so, I "knew" I didn't want kids. It didn't make sense to me and I never had the desire. I think babies are cute and I love holding them, but I'd like to be able to give them back after a couple of hours.

    I still don't want kids, because I'm not too keen on the thought of devoting 18 years of my life to someone else, who might or might not appreciate that. However, I have been a bit back and forth with this, sometimes I've wanted kids, sometimes I've even wanted to be a single mom. Me and my kid, against the world! But now I'm back to no desire of having kids. I have a lot of things I still wanna do with my life and in life before even thinking about basically giving it away. And the thought of someone else being in control of my life, is scary.

    I'm OK with the thought of giving birth. That part does not scare me as much as THE PREGNANCY! No no no! I'm gonna wait until artificial wombs are approved. Or I'll adopt.
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    No thanks.

    I'm never going to be ready to be a 'host' and wait on a child hand and foot for the rest of my fucking life.

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    I would want to be pregnant just for a week or so, just to see what it feels like. I've always wondered what it felt like on the inside for a pregnant woman. However, I have never really wanted kids, and am less than thrilled about the idea of labor. I also don't want to be patted by random strangers and told how cute I am, and poked and prodded by an OB/GYN constantly during the pregnancy.

    I think NT women very seldom feel that ultra-feminine, earth mother thing that exults in pregnancy. We rarely think of our gender that much, and it would just feel, I don't know, embarrassing? Undignified? to have to carry a kid around for nine months? It sounds weird, but that's the closest I can get to it. Maybe it's what Redbone said, the idea that you have to pay attention to your body, and not focus on your mind.

    Anyhoo, I agree, hilo--when I was younger, I never wanted children, but was open to the possibility of changing my mind. Now, I can't really imagine having children. You might as well tell me I will turn into a purple unicorn in a few years as tell me I'll have kids in a few years. Maybe before it was just all theoretical, and now I realize I won't have some major change of heart. If I were going to have kids, I'd have to do it in the next few years, and I really don't see that happening. If I were to meet my soulmate tomorrow, I would want time with him without kids.
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    Seems NT women need to get pregnant by accident, or not at all.
    No wonder there are so few of us!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Salt n' pepper View Post
    I think babies are cute and I love holding them, but I'd like to be able to give them back after a couple of hours.
    This.
    I like to babysit, but then there's freedom at the end of it all.

    mebbe with a nurturing, work at home pop
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    Glad that I'm not the only other female that isn't dying to get pregnant. I feel like I don't have a maternal bone in my body. Babies especially horrify me with their constant crying, shitting, oozing...

    I work in a photo studio that specializes in family and infant photography. Pretty much all the birth control I need.

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    Quote Originally Posted by INA View Post
    This.
    I like to babysit, but then there's freedom at the end of it all.
    I also like to play with kids more than I like to be the grownup. I think it would seriously make me want to kill myself to have to be responsible for everything a kid does from the time he gets up in the morning until he goes to bed at night. Being the rule enforcer and having to back the rules up with punishments, having to think up creative ways to entertain them, having to listen to kid music and watch kid shows and listen to kids yelling things when a normal volume would suffice...yeah, I don't think I need to be anyone's mother.

    Dogs, on the other hand, are awesome.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tallulah View Post
    I also like to play with kids more than I like to be the grownup. I think it would seriously make me want to kill myself to have to be responsible for everything a kid does from the time he gets up in the morning until he goes to bed at night. Being the rule enforcer and having to back the rules up with punishments, having to think up creative ways to entertain them, having to listen to kid music and watch kid shows and listen to kids yelling things when a normal volume would suffice...yeah, I don't think I need to be anyone's mother.
    I don't have a problem being the authority figure (I got a good amount a practice bossing around younger kids ), but I tend to like kids less the older they get. This is a potential problem.
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    I didn't even like kids when I was one.
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    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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