I would much appreciate it if some of you all could help me understand!
I had a complete falling out with a friend that is an INTJ.
There are certain things about me that bug the heck out of her. Things I dont believe I can really change. But she is completely into changing me to fit this standard of perfection she has set. I would love if someone could explain WHY these things bother her so much, because I dont get it, and she doesnt know why it irritates her. It just does.
-Interupting. She can't stand it. I cant tell you how many times I have been lectured about it by her. It's not that I am trying to be rude...I just generally cant wait another second to say something or I feel like I am going to explode.
-I don't take things seriously. It really bothered her that I would prop up my feet in class, or joke with the teachers and students around me. She thought I didnt take life seriously, and would end up nowhere in life.
-I didnt think about the future. Probably her biggest issue. I tend to be whimsical, all over the place, and never know where I am off to next. Drove her mad. She thinks everyone needs a life plan. Even if she was going to make it for me. She was trying to pick out my career
-I 'run away' from my problems. I do really hate to face them. I like to go take a nap, or a walk and think about other things. Then I bounce back like everything is ok. She thinks everything needs to be worked out verbally or written out and discussed to solve things directly.
-I'm ditzy. Yes. Apparently I come across as stupid.
---I stopped all contact with her after she not only cussed me out repeatedly, and then wrote me a five page letter outlining all my faults so that I could fix them. It was too much drama, I am not particularly loyal, and it wasn't worth all the strife. It was to the point where I was getting depressed about it. I hate being sad.
Now however, she wants to be friends again. Says she wants to apologize, because she really misses me. Is there any way on earth it would work for us to even be on speaking terms? Or am I basically going to annoy her no matter what? :steam: