the level of importance the other person put on their friendship?
A couple of times, an ENFJ friend asked me if I tell stuff about her when I'm talking with our other friends when she's not around.
I find the question weird. It's human nature to talk about other people. It's not completely unavoidable, but I almost always talk about her with the nicest intent whenever such occasions happen.
As an ENTP (where ENFJ is a very compatible archetype), I'm almost sure that she's aware that I was already "pseudo-smitten" to her at the very beginning. I thought that my sincerity is alreay apparent. Her "radar" should have sensed it. Well, if that doesn't work, she can always "romanticize" the interaction and make anyone like her.
If anything, it should be my prerogative to ask that ENFJ a similar question. Because she caters to too many people, I'm starting to wonder if she has an idea of "prioritizing", like acknowledging more those that actually value the friendship.
I wonder if she asking me that question is a reflection of what goes on in her psyche.
Edit: This should be in the NF forum. Please transfer this thread.