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    Default intp-intp first date

    Here's a datum for the single intps.

    So I set up an online date with an intp female.

    I don't know about you other intp's, but intuitively another intp seems like the ideal match to me because I'm really looking for a sense of mutual understanding and mental connection in a partner.

    Anyway, we met for dinner which always is a first date rife with awkwardness as people read the menu, take time to chew, etc. There weren't the sparks I had hoped for. We ended up trapped in small talk. I tried to steer the conversation to some ideas, but nothing caught. Neither one of us was able to sustain the role of the extrovert. I didn't find her physically attractive which probably hindered the flow as well.

    It wasn't an unpleasant evening but I won't be calling her again. My idea of intp-intp compatibility has been undermined. Perhaps I'd hit it off with a nice entp or xnfp...

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    The magic word: alcohol.

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    Sound advice. We each had a margarita.

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    'A' as in 'one'?

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    Yeah, one. Neither of us was interested in hanging around for more.

    I do usually prefer to meet for drinks over meeting for dinner; less opportunities for awkward, more social lubrication, and multiple introvert recharging bathroom breaks.

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    Some INTPs I have chemistry with. Others not so much, but only blaming type instead of analyzing the real compatibility issues will leave you a bit lacking.
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    Your identical match isn't the only possibility for mutual understanding, mental and stimulating connection.

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    AS: Of course, you are correct. Having been on only one date, the primary compatibility issue I see was a lack of chemistry. Perhaps we could open up more in the future but a mediocre first date and lack of physical attraction doesn't make me enthusiastic to find out.

    I'm a Fetard trying to get better at relationshiping, so I'm curious: What types of compatibility issues do you think are important?

    Rebe: True. It seems like a higher probability though. I'm not caught up on having a relationship with an intp but I'll admit I was excited by the prospect.

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    Great. Another twit arises, claiming intp.

    Quote Originally Posted by A Schnitzel View Post
    but only blaming type instead of analyzing the real compatibility issues will leave you a bit lacking.
    Analysis? He don't need no stinking analysis!
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    A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born.
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    ^I take it you didn't enjoy the date either? :P
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    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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