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    Quote Originally Posted by suttree View Post
    I didn't find her physically attractive which probably hindered the flow as well.
    Then what was your motivation?

    I'm normally very introverted, but when I'm with another introvert, I try to take the extrovert role to the best of my ability if it's someone who I'm interested in getting to know or potentially date. But if I went on a date with someone who I wasn't even attracted to, I probably wouldn't make the effort.

    ... I guess that might come off as shallow, but I'm just being honest.

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    If you were to ever get married, it's a wonder that either of you would ever leave the house.
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    Oh LOL. Yes of course. Because we never go out. R.O.F.L.

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    If I were married there would be fewer reasons to leave the house, true. I do enjoy going out, on my own and with others. When I was married i did enjoy the occasional date with my wife. Even the most hermit-like introvert needs novel stimulation.

    Dyoni, she was intelligent and competent and posted zoomed-out photos from ~5 years, 15+ lbs ago. Such is the nature of online dating. I've had better relationships with girls I didn't initially lust after than with girls I did. I wouldn't call you shallow, physical attraction is important; its foolishness or wishful thinking to assert otherwise.

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    Quote Originally Posted by suttree View Post
    Dyoni, she was intelligent and competent and posted zoomed-out photos from ~5 years, 15+ lbs ago. Such is the nature of online dating. I've had better relationships with girls I didn't initially lust after than with girls I did. I wouldn't call you shallow, physical attraction is important; its foolishness or wishful thinking to assert otherwise.
    Ah, I see. That part of online dating is difficult, although I really like to meet people online. My current boyfriend I met on Facebook, and it's turned out very well. It's definitely a good way for introverts to meet people. I've had a few dates that were arranged online that worked out the same way, though - they didn't look like I had envisioned them at all. The most awkward was when I would up on a date with a guy who was more than a foot shorter than me. He was a nice guy, but I think we both knew that we wouldn't be calling each other afterward. lol

    Anyway, keep trying! I don't think dating another INTP would be impossible as long as one of you was willing to be the conversation-starter.

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    INA, what did I say to make you think I'm a non-intp twit?
    You misunderstand! I do not challenge your self-typing as intp. There have been many many new intps of late.
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    Quote Originally Posted by suttree View Post
    We ended up trapped in small talk. I tried to steer the conversation to some ideas, but nothing caught
    She isn't INTP

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    I just returned from a nice 5th or so date with an INTP. The conversations seem to go like this:

    me:idea
    him: (enthusiastically): idea
    me: idea
    him:idea
    (unconfortable silence
    one of us: small talk
    (uncomfortable silence)
    one of us: idea!
    the other: Oh yea, idea!
    (conversation gains speed again)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Red Herring View Post
    I just returned from a nice 5th or so date with an INTP. The conversations seem to go like this:

    me:idea
    him: (enthusiastically): idea
    me: idea
    him:idea
    (unconfortable silence
    one of us: small talk
    (uncomfortable silence)
    one of us: idea!
    the other: Oh yea, idea!
    (conversation gains speed again)
    I find its generally only an uncomfortable silence when the INTP you are with is assuming you are like everyone else and judging them for processing time

    I usually go into a little rant about the very topic of pauses and they loosen right up

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    Quote Originally Posted by Red Herring View Post
    I just returned from a nice 5th or so date with an INTP. The conversations seem to go like this:

    me:idea
    him: (enthusiastically): idea
    me: idea
    him:idea
    (unconfortable silence
    one of us: small talk
    (uncomfortable silence)
    one of us: idea!
    the other: Oh yea, idea!
    (conversation gains speed again)
    Yeah, that's what I've found with some fellow NTs. The conversation's good when we have a topic to focus on, but just being together is a little awkward. It makes my Fe go into overdrive, and I feel unbalanced and uncomfortable.
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