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    Unhappy The Epic story of an @$$h0|3: dying alone with my best friend, me.

    So, I've been realizing just how much of a big asstard I am. Seriously, it's almost sickening. It turns out that the kind if girls I like... Well, let's just say the 'I like you' feeling isn't even close to being mutual. I've become some kind of egotistical monster, I have this enormous sense of entitlement that isn't deserved, I always put myself first, I constantly try to get intellectual one-ups by strategically breaking peoples arguments down -this isn't really a bad thing though, but the way I go about arguing belittles the Hell out of the other person and the reasons why I argue aren't even good ones,- I expect people to do exactly as I expect them to but WHOAH, GLORY HALLUJAH, people don't really want to call me 'Emperor Of Everything'...

    How the Hell do I fix myself before I become older, even more lonely, and bitter-er? I'm looking into the future and all I see is me, with a cane, a messed up leg and some vicodin... It's a very fancy and expensive cane though... Very, very fancy...

    But in all seriousness. What do I do to correct myself? Can I even be corrected? Help.
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    This will not end well...
    But it will at least be poetic, I suppose...

    Hmm... But what if it does end well?
    Then I suppose it will be a different sort of poetry, a preferable sort...
    A sort I could become accustomed to...



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    tell your friends that they can punch you when your being an total asshole

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    Props to you for mentioning House in a round-about way!! If you do, preferably a fancy cane WITH FLAMES.

    I realized that I was the same way about a year and a half ago. I was, simply put, a complete egotistical jackass. I held my tongue around almost everyone. I found myself hating people more at first, because I wasn't allowed to vent my anger at their incompetent behavior out. But I took up writing, working out, ranting to a friend who didn't care that I thought I was all that and bag of potato chips.


    This long later, I still find most people to be idiots. But now I just laugh with them, rather than at them. It helped me some.

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    Quote Originally Posted by INTP View Post
    tell your friends that they can punch you when your being an total asshole
    Need some friends first.
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    This will not end well...
    But it will at least be poetic, I suppose...

    Hmm... But what if it does end well?
    Then I suppose it will be a different sort of poetry, a preferable sort...
    A sort I could become accustomed to...



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    who are you arguing with if you've got no friends?

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    Quote Originally Posted by vieamemusique View Post
    Props to you for mentioning House in a round-about way!! If you do, preferably a fancy cane WITH FLAMES.
    Don't encourage my bad behaviour...

    I realized that I was the same way about a year and a half ago. I was, simply put, a complete egotistical jackass. I held my tongue around almost everyone. I found myself hating people more at first, because I wasn't allowed to vent my anger at their incompetent behavior out. But I took up writing, working out, ranting to a friend who didn't care that I thought I was all that and bag of potato chips.
    Good ideas. Not talking will be an easy one.


    This long later, I still find most people to be idiots. But now I just laugh with them, rather than at them. It helped me some.
    It's going to be a long road to recovery. I see that now.
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    This will not end well...
    But it will at least be poetic, I suppose...

    Hmm... But what if it does end well?
    Then I suppose it will be a different sort of poetry, a preferable sort...
    A sort I could become accustomed to...



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    Quote Originally Posted by strawberries View Post
    who are you arguing with if you've got no friends?
    I argue with anyone who is both stupid and not my friend. People at work, online, anyone else in my sphere, etc.
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    This will not end well...
    But it will at least be poetic, I suppose...

    Hmm... But what if it does end well?
    Then I suppose it will be a different sort of poetry, a preferable sort...
    A sort I could become accustomed to...



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    when i was a kitten i was more argumentative. then i realised some people are just immovable and daft and don’t value logic or analysis and that my mental energy could be better used in other ways. i still find myself drawn into debates, but i can be more detached now and walk away before i say anything super ugly.

    my first boss after i graduated and got a grown up job said to me 'you get more with sugar than shit.' i have seen this play out in my professional and personal life over and over. you don’t need to sell out, but you do need to pick your battles. people generally don't want to listen to lonely, angry people - their currency ends up devalued no matter the strength of their ideas.

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    Why bother arguing with people you think are stupid? Why argue with people you see as beneath you? What is there to gain besides both parties ending up hating each other? Focus on what is worth arguing about. It can help if you pause to think why you want so badly to prove something to someone else. Is it to clarify something? Or maybe to challenge a different idea? If the only reason is so you can gain face through the detriment of the other person, then take vieamemusique's advice and keep quiet. If you do choose to argue, then make sure your points are damned good-- making a big deal out of winning petty fights won't benefit anyone.

    You can try improving yourself in an area of expertise. Then restrict yourself to arguing on topics within that topic because then you have a legitimate excuse to debate. You might win, you might lose, but try to learn something in those debates, rather than focusing on just trying to win.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lets eat pie View Post
    Why bother arguing with people you think are stupid? Why argue with people you see as beneath you? What is there to gain besides both parties ending up hating each other?
    maybe he likes to feel superior to other people.

    anyway, instead of arguing, try to make them understand your point of view peacefully and try to (really)understand their point of view. if you cant understand other peoples point of view, you are just as stupid as those who cant understand yours.

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