My mother has a problem. She can't do money. She was fed all her life by her family, then my dad, then after divorce my grandma took care of her. I fear that very soon she will have to sell her house which is the only thing she got from my dad aside from years of abuse. She's really frigging miserable.
I tried to help her out by:
1. introducing her to multilevel marketing which has a support structure ideal for someone with a weak character to at least fit in and learn a few things even if she does not succeed. She made friends but made no money. Initially these people were trying to help her in many ways but they all gave up on her because of her lack of self esteem or character/drive.
2. teaching her about money and the psychology she needs to have (spent a whole day trying to figure out what the problem was and to give her a plan)
Nothing works, short of just f***ing handing her cash which is what people did all her life, and what created the problem in the first place. She will spend that cash and then go on complaining that it's impossible to work because of unemployment blah blah blah.
Honestly I'm getting sick of it. Initiative, zero. Spirit of self preservation, zero. Zero of everything just the shadow of a woman too fearful to even go outside of the house. CRAP! I can't stand my mom is like this.
How do you build the first bit of confidence in someone who's got none and who's been beat up all their life and who sees nothing but scarcity?