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    Quote Originally Posted by Apollonian View Post
    The Monte Carlo approach to dating. I love it.
    I recently upgraded to a Latin Hyperbole approach to try to speed up how my brain deals with these things. Set out the situation logically and hit the extremes. Damn stochastics.

    Yes, INTJ's will generally only show interest if they are interested: if the interest wanes or we feel our efforts aren't being reciprocated we will try to back off without causing a hastle. The best way to find out what your INTJ is thinking is by making them comfortable then asking them to think about it.

    The most important think you can do with you INTJ is make him comfortable by not forcing emotional responses from him. Most INTJs have problems correctly expressing and dealing with emotions so if you can show him how to do that without him feeling threatened he'll stop running hot and cold.

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    Quote Originally Posted by forzen View Post
    Sooooo,

    this chick grab me and put me on her lap while i was talking to her in a group of her friends, i kind of went blank and walk off without saying anything. We're not really close friend, I just like talking to her and nothing more. I only knew her for like a month. I don't know what happened, i guess it was unexpected. How do i remedy this situation. She probably felt creeped out that i just walked out....
    Slap her!
    Between that cigarillo and sticking my finger down my throat to see if I could DT, I feel like puking RN.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Edgar View Post
    Once mutual attraction is confirmed, I'm all about getting physical. In fact, I would be quite annoyed if the g/f was holding back... I'd be like "What is this bullshit? Do you like me or not?"

    But the whole "not knowing how to verbally express feelings" does remain. INTJs have plenty of feelings, it's just that they are viewed as something that is susceptible to illogical motivations, and therefore a source of vulnerability. A verbal admission to them is like an admission to a weakness - not something an INTJ is fond of doing.
    This. I have feelings, all kinds of them but I can't always get it from my brain to my mouth. This is probably why I still prefer writing down things that are difficult to say. It's also why ENFJ man and I, to this day, use the IM to talk about really hard stuff. In the same house. Appearing weak is about the worst thing I can imagine. Expecting me to verbalize AND appear weak, not happening.
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    Quote Originally Posted by paperoceans View Post
    Slap her!
    haha, nah...although it'll probably awkward to talk to her from now on. I don't really like burning bridges anymore, i've done it alot in the past and regretted burning a couple.
    This post grammatical errors had been intentionally left uncorrected.

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    Quote Originally Posted by forzen View Post
    Sooooo,

    this chick grab me and put me on her lap while i was talking to her in a group of her friends, i kind of went blank and walk off without saying anything. We're not really close friend, I just like talking to her and nothing more. I only knew her for like a month. I don't know what happened, i guess it was unexpected. How do i remedy this situation. She probably felt creeped out that i just walked out....
    Tell her you had gas and didn't want to fart in her lap.

    She will be very understanding and appreciative about it.
    Listen to me, baby, you got to understand, you're old enough to learn the makings of a man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Edgar View Post
    Tell her you had gas and didn't want to fart in her lap.

    She will be very understanding and appreciative about it.
    haha, i guess i can play it smooth.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    I mean, I even asked him if he wanted me to not be physical with him ( I hug people I like). He asked me not to. So I restrain myself, talk to him for 10 minutes and find him attacking me from behind
    And he didn't leave me alone anymore after that physically. Sitting against me, lying on my shoulder, touching my hand, cuddling..you name it. Explanation: he just felt 'comfortable' with me :rolli:


    I think that their ability to feel truly comfortable in your presence, means amd says a lot about them as well as the health and future potential of the relationship.

    Hahahahaha, what's interesting/odd, that I, too, am a physically affectionate person yet with an INTJ, even one you feel incredibly close to, you still just get this feeling/need to ask before you do something *new*.

    Or, at least I do.

    With most people, I can read them and the situation so well that often times there is no need to ask, however, with an INTJ I just feel, I dunno, inclined to *slowly test the uncharted waters*, whether this be out of personal insecurity or fear, (as in, fear of crossing one of their Lines), I'm not quite sure.

    Hahahahaa, thoughts, many thoughts....


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    Quote Originally Posted by Edgar View Post
    Once mutual attraction is confirmed, I'm all about getting physical. In fact, I would be quite annoyed if the g/f was holding back... I'd be like "What is this bullshit? Do you like me or not?"
    Fair enough.

    But the whole "not knowing how to verbally express feelings" does remain. INTJs have plenty of feelings, it's just that they are viewed as something that is susceptible to illogical motivations, and therefore a source of vulnerability. A verbal admission to them is like an admission to a weakness - not something an INTJ is fond of doing.
    Practice makes perfect, puddin'.

    Edgar, I lurrrrrrrve you, and you make me feel soooooooo very good inside, you're as cute as an apple bran muffin; sweet, fortified, and slow to digest... You're like a great BM, hahahaa, shall I go on?!?!?

    See, it's easy!!!

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    First time I heard anyone use "slow to digest" as a compliment...

    That was a compliment, right?
    Listen to me, baby, you got to understand, you're old enough to learn the makings of a man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Edgar View Post
    First time I heard anyone use "slow to digest" as a compliment...

    That was a compliment, right?
    Of course, or would you rather be compared to a shot of vodka?!?!

    Quick, easy, fun, and gets the job done.

    Hahahaa, actually, you might.
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