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[MBTI General] Quick Question.

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ReflecTcelfeR

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How many times does it take somebody to tell you that you are doing something the wrong way, even though there is no 'right' way to do it, before you just start ignoring said person?
 

Amethyst

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Once.
Is something bothering you? Or are you just subtly curious?
 
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Once.
Is something bothering you? Or are you just subtly curious?

One of my friends can't stop judging everything I say and do. I just want to scream hypocrite! I mean I don't claim to know everything and what I say can sound extremely pompous, but I hardly ever criticize others with my words. When I do I am usually right. For awhile it was fun, but now it's just annoying... I just feel like ignoring him. I'm not one to start confrontation.
 

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One of my friends can't stop judging everything I say and do. I just want to scream hypocrite! I mean I don't claim to know everything and what I say can sound extremely pompous, but I hardly ever criticize others with my words. When I do I am usually right. For awhile it was fun, but now it's just annoying... I just feel like ignoring him. I'm not one to start confrontation.

If he's your friend, you owe it to him to confront him. Ignoring a friend or the content of his words is one of the greatest insults.
 
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It's mainly because it doesn't happen with just him, but pretty much everyone who is my friend. I'm the one who gets to be made a mockery of and I think this was just the last straw. I don't judge half as much as others judge me. I'm not good with expressing emotions and actions that I can think of right now are rather harsh.

I really just feel like screaming. Too bad it's one-thirty in the morning.
 

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One of my friends can't stop judging everything I say and do. I just want to scream hypocrite! I mean I don't claim to know everything and what I say can sound extremely pompous, but I hardly ever criticize others with my words. When I do I am usually right. For awhile it was fun, but now it's just annoying... I just feel like ignoring him. I'm not one to start confrontation.

My ESFP psychotic roommate was the same way, we were also friends at the time. Hypocrite to the max. I confronted her about it, and she basically called me out for attacking her and set out to ruin the rest of my semester.

Depending on how your friend can take confrontation, I'd say don't do it if you feel they will be the same way to you.
 
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He and I have two VERY different world views. INFP-ENTP... not sure how this working out.
 

Amethyst

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He and I have two VERY different world views. INFP-ENTP... not sure how this working out.
Hmm...I have a feeling you should let him be for the time being...until he finds his good side again.
 

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Or...
If you must deal with them, then approach from the perspective of trying to understand them, being concerned, and generally being on their side. That tends to put a person's guard down and makes them more receptive to input.
 
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Hahaha, I just read that. We'll see what happens. I may be working with him sometime soon.

I'm also afraid that when I do get the chance to confront him I won't care anymore, or these feelings won't be as raw so I'll feel as if I have no reason to discuss it.
 
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