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    Default Gift-Buying for INTJs - What do they want???!!!

    Why is it so hard to buy for intjs......

    My dad and boyfriend both are intjs, and it's extremely difficult.

    INTJ men, tell me what you would like as a gift. I need ideas.

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    Quote Originally Posted by onelovelylove View Post
    Why is it so hard to buy for intjs......

    My dad and boyfriend both are intjs, and it's extremely difficult.

    INTJ men, tell me what you would like as a gift. I need ideas.
    I don't think they'll ever be 100% satisfied with ANY gift. My father is an INTJ. He loves fishing...I bought him a Bass Pro giftcard. He thanked me, but complained that that store is way overpriced, that he could get those things a lot cheaper. I said...DAD, IT'S A GIFT CARD. IT'S FREE MONEY. UGH

    So when I went to Ireland on vacation, I knew I wasn't buying my dad any souvenirs, because he never appreciates anything I buy him. So, I picked up some rocks of limestone from the ground at The Burren and gave him that as my gift. And surprisingly...he liked that. My dad collects weird things. He finds value in things people normally don't, and he's a hoarder.

    Clothes is a definite no-no for my dad. He could care less about what he wears.

    INTJs have such specific tastes. You really have to know exactly what's in that abstract little head of theirs to get the perfect gift...and well, it'll never be PERFECT to them.

    I'm actually guilty of the same...go figure!

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    Generally I wouldn't recommend giving any gifts unless it's something that they really want. If you want to give something, just give them some cash or a gift card. Or you could do them a favor, help them with an errand etc.

    Do you know what their love languages are? That would help more than using MBTI types for gifts and giving love.
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    My last gift to an INTJ female: An In-N-Out gift card for $50. She liked!

    INTJ connection: None.

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    Gift cards are like cash but worse. If you get a gift card at least get a Visa or American Express one.
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    Wow buying gifts for INTJs is a ridiculous task. The only time ive ever given a "good" gift for my INTJ dad was when I bought him the same thing he intended to buy but a week before he got around to it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    Do you know what their love languages are? That would help more than using MBTI types for gifts and giving love.
    I haven't heard of this before....I'll have to look into it. Anything to help!

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    Consider challenging their normal INTJness and pull them out of their box.

    A day trip somewhere fun or romantic. Thinks somewhere in the outdoors (woods deserts) resort area or active city center

    Tell them you already got the nonrefundable reservations so they don't back out.
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    I like gear (camping, cycling, etc. tools), non-fiction theory books (physics, theology, neuroscience) and nerdy gadgetry from thinkgeek.com.

    I also like clothes as gifts if they're timeless and well-cut to fit my frame.

    And school supplies. I love school supplies even as a grad student.
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    So, here is what I think

    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    Generally I wouldn't recommend giving any gifts unless it's something that they really want. If you want to give something, just give them some cash or a gift card. Or you could do them a favor, help them with an errand etc.
    It is quite possible to get an INTJ a gift they will be very happy with.

    I agree that you should get them something they want. They will not want you to do them a favor or run an errand.

    As far as what they want - it isn't that hard to figure out if you pay attention to what they buy themselves.

    Quote Originally Posted by JustHer View Post
    The only time ive ever given a "good" gift for my INTJ dad was when I bought him the same thing he intended to buy but a week before he got around to it.
    Smashing idea.

    In summary:
    - it should be practical
    - it should be something they already want
    - one good quality thing is better than ten mediocre quality things
    - cool new technology is ideal but it must be practical
    - don't buy them a book; you'll never be able to guess which ones they would be interested in
    - whatever you do, don't get them a gift card
    - clothes are actually ok but not terribly exciting

    So, some examples would be:
    - 10 pairs of black socks - all the same kind, so they never have to worry about matching them; they must be soft and comfortable
    - An iPad
    - New underwear
    - A Blue Ray player
    - A Porsche convertible
    - New CD from their favorite artist

    One of the best gifts I ever got was a GPS for the car. It was cool and immensely practical.

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