well i was laughing when i said it...but it just sounds so clinical...it's hilarious.
haha, I know how it sounds... but really, it was so very romantic. To be able to just say everything you want out of life, your expectations of him, yourself and the relationship, to put it all out there and deal with every single issue drama-free before it comes up... preparing for our future, planning our lives, potential children and their education, and our deaths - figuring out our retirement, investments and well, just everything... It as all very honest and clean and easy, and it satisfied my raging Ne.
I don't know many couples that have our kind of security or can even speak to each other
well, much less be completely open about everything.
INTPs are the architects, right? It was important for him to feel like he had some sort of control of the structure of this whole thing and that there was plenty of wiggle room for the both of us. We're both so independent that we couldn't just jumping in blindly with our eyes closed. Love is one thing, but reality is quite another. And for me, the "inventor", this was a relationship that I got to frame the way I wanted from the ground up. Something brand new that no one else had yet. A new model. And that's how we work together. I come up with what I want and in what parameters, then he draws up the detailed plans. Or he'll work out all these bits and pieces and I'll make it into something whole. Totally symbiotic. I love our relationship.
But yeah, I get how the process doesn't sound all unicorns and rainbows, but this is what I want to do to unicorns:
