User Tag List

12311 Last

Results 1 to 10 of 113

  1. #1
    Senior Member Misty_Mountain_Rose's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    4w5
    Posts
    1,123

    Default The NT Females' List of Deal Breakers

    I'm curious now from reading the "NT Females - Are Relationships Difficult" thread. I've seen a lot of us referring to themselves as having high standards, being 'picky' and knowing immediately when a relationship won't work.

    What are the minimum characteristics that you REQUIRE in a potential mate? If you won't date someone who likes crunchy peanut butter... lets have it. Lets have an extensive list, be it physical, personality related, quirk related, maturity/responsibility related, etc, etc.

    Lets do the MUST HAVE, the I PREFER, the PREFER NOT and the DEALBREAKERS

    Here is mine...

    MUST HAVE's

    A stable job
    A stable home life
    Self Respecting
    Truthful
    Funny
    Enjoys debates/knowledgeable
    Responsible/Dependable


    Prefer NOT to deal with if possible

    Smokers
    Night Owls
    Computer/Gaming addicts (Must be able to balance with other activities)
    Drama seekers
    Red Sox Fans (hahaha)
    Someone who always has to be out of the house doing something to be happy


    I Prefer/Think I would connect better with someone who...

    Has a love/passion for music - any kind, either creating or enjoying others'
    Has knowledge of literature and likes to read
    Someone who can handle finances and plans ahead


    DEAL BREAKERS

    Criminal record
    Abusive/Controlling/Unwarranted Jealousy
    Drugs
    Married
    Cheaters


    I might think of more, but thats a start.

    Lets see if we're unreasonable...
    Embrace the possibilities.

  2. #2
    Permabanned
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    MBTI
    xkcd
    Enneagram
    9w1 sx/sp
    Socionics
    INT_
    Posts
    10,733

    Default

    Are you sure this isn't for NTJ women?

    I see lists and dealbreakers far less from NTPs.

  3. #3
    ¡MI TORTA! Amethyst's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2010
    MBTI
    ESTP
    Enneagram
    7w8 so/sx
    Socionics
    SLE Ti
    Posts
    2,182

    Default

    MUST HAVE
    Humor
    Respect for themselves and others
    An Open Mind
    Responsibility
    Maturity
    Intelligence that isn't far from mine
    Ambition (I don't really care in what, per say, but just as long as they want to be the best of whatever they want to be)
    Passion

    Prefer NOT to deal with if possible
    If they have anything to do with baseball or golf
    Guys who don't talk all that much
    ...meh, I'll think of others...this area is really vague, since for me it's either a yes or a no, not a 'oh, well I can get over that'...not yet, at least

    I Prefer/Think I would connect better with someone who...
    Is interested in similar things, yet we have separate interests
    Has vast knowledge about a ton of things, but we are able to teach and educate each other
    Is open to new things to do and try

    DEAL BREAKERS
    Smokers
    Addicts of any sort
    Married
    Has Kids
    Cheaters
    Any sort of controlling/abusive/mentally unhealthy guy

  4. #4
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    5
    Posts
    202

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by MacGuffin View Post
    Are you sure this isn't for NTJ women?

    I see lists and dealbreakers far less from NTPs.
    Don't you see how much easier dating would be if everyone used lists and point systems?!

  5. #5
    Senior Thread Terminator Aerithria's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Posts
    568

    Default

    MUST HAVE's

    Ambition
    Self-respect
    Honesty
    Good sense of humour
    Open-minded
    Passion
    Dependability
    Adventurous

    Prefer NOT to deal with if possible

    Drama seekers
    Sports nuts
    Overly romantic/affectionate people

    I Prefer/Think I would connect better with someone who...

    Has knowledge of literature and likes to read
    Someone who can handle finances and plans ahead
    Shares similar tastes in food (i.e. not being required to cook two separate meals)

    DEAL BREAKERS

    Criminal record (within reason -- some offenses are worse than others)
    Abusive/Controlling/Unwarranted Jealousy
    Drugs
    Married
    Cheaters
    Smokers
    People who require constant attention
    People who let other people dictate their lives
    [insert funny quote/saying/etc.]

  6. #6
    Writing... Tamske's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    MBTI
    ENTP
    Posts
    1,764

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Weber View Post
    Don't you see how much easier dating would be if everyone used lists and point systems?!
    No, it makes things impossible. Experiment first, rationalize later.

    Must haves: ?

    Preferably: some imagination, intelligence, a passion for board games

    Rather not: pet owner, smoker (I have allergy and asthma. And I want to live long and healthy.)

    Dealbreaker: being ashamed when someone in your vicinity is using Ne. (meaning: regarding playing/singing/inventing /...as silly and childish)

    Yes, this is with hindsight. Yes, I've broken a relationship for the reasons listed above... after trying to shut down my dominant function for a few years.

    Of course, now those 'lists' are in the bin... I'm happily married
    Got questions? Ask an ENTP!
    I'm female. I just can't draw women

  7. #7
    Reason vs Being ragashree's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    Mine
    Enneagram
    1w9
    Posts
    1,770

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Weber View Post
    Don't you see how much easier dating would be for -NTJs if everyone else used lists and point systems too?! They could just meet a prospective applicant for the position of New Partner and check their requirements against the applicant's expectations to ensure maximum future compatibility with the role!
    Fixed
    Look into my avatar. Look deep into my avatar...

  8. #8
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    5
    Posts
    202

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ragashree View Post
    Fixed
    One can only dream of such a glorious future.

  9. #9
    meh Salomé's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    5w4 sx/sp
    Posts
    10,540

    Default

    Prefer NOT to deal with if possible

    1. People who make lists.
    Quote Originally Posted by Ivy View Post
    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

  10. #10
    Reason vs Being ragashree's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    Mine
    Enneagram
    1w9
    Posts
    1,770

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Weber View Post
    One can only dream of such a glorious future.
    This "getting to know people" nonsense is so inefficient, and takes up so much valuable time you could be productively spending on other endeavours...
    Look into my avatar. Look deep into my avatar...

Similar Threads

  1. [NF] The NF Females' List of Deal Breakers
    By Esoteric Wench in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 452
    Last Post: 03-19-2013, 09:16 AM
  2. [NF] The NF Males' List of Deal Breakers (Rip off)
    By Yloh in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 115
    Last Post: 07-05-2010, 05:22 PM
  3. [NT] NT men list of shit they's put up with... in chicks
    By murkrow in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 72
    Last Post: 06-13-2010, 01:37 AM
  4. [NT] NT women list of shit they put up with from men.
    By ThatGirl in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 74
    Last Post: 06-12-2010, 02:10 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO