Surely the people who claim to have NO guidelines whatsoever have criteria that they use to make judgements about a person and how well they would fit into a relationship with themselves. Why the hesitance to voice them?
Its interesting how this is playing out. To the people who don't want to commit to a list: Is it because the definitions are too ambiguous? IE - "What is 'funny'", "Where would I make an exception for a cheater?", etc?
I'm genuinely intrigued by this because, to me, EVERYONE has these standards of what they are willing or unwilling to accept in their life and in their close relationships. Either I'm completely wrong (possible) or people are dodging the question for one reason or another.