Do you really think he could be potentially dangerous? There are plenty of creepers out there who aren't dangerous at all. The reason I ask is because if he isn't likely to be a threat, it might be wise to end things straightforwardly, rather than attempt some sort of "attitude adjustment."
When I jetted off to Brazil for 2 weeks without telling him, he went POSTAL, calling EVERYONE he knew I knew.
So knowing how possessive he is and how he obsessively checks on your location 24/7 you purposely did not tell him you were going somewhere? Were you already mentally breaking up with him or is this *before* he got super possessive? How long has he behaved this way towards you and how long have you been dating exclusively?
I'd be interested in hearing about how you two got together and if there were small things at the beginning that set him off - do you have a lot of male friends, do you usually not talk to your SO's everyday? Etc. Has he been cheated on in the past? And this sounds obvious, but did you ever cheat on him (and he found out)?
“If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you.” ― Oscar Wilde
i didn't even SEE that! was that added later? if you're the type to take off for 2 weeks w/o telling your bf you are with the worst possible guy for you! but...you probably really should tell people close to you that kind of info.
There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
The Jelousy thing is simple anthropology, men gaurd their mates.
He is insecure of your - he clearly into you more than you are into him hence his behaviour. It's likely you are doing something to drive or maintin the insececurity.
If you like him - then work at making him secure, remove what he is being OCD about. For instance if he is email all the time say I don't like it, reduce it down to 1 email a day and I will be content, we will see each other on the 4th etc. If not then breka it off
Draw strong boundaries and give him consiquences - if he doesn't follow the rules cancel dates.
You do sound as if you quite like him but he does need a firm hand. an ENTJ will respect you more for them
I'm with Elaur. I think his temporary insanity is literally due to overuse of his own frigging chemical coctail, also known as infatuation.
Fi is going mental coz he wants a strong bond with you but feels like you're constantly slithering away, and is giving Te the order to just gain control of the situation already..which he's desperately trying to do.
Personally (disclaimer: don't do this if you thin k he might actually harm you), I'd sit his ass down, tell him to shut up and explain him everything into detail of what's bugging you and how he will lose you if he keeps it up. Then, tell him how to keep you. Give him the outline, the rules on how you work, coz it's clear that he has no clue what to do to get you to return that affection he feels for you, and it's driving him mental.
Make it perfectly clear that if he ignores you on this, you're out the door. Then tell him he can speak. See what he says. If necessary, drive your point home. At this point, ask him what it is he needs to stop being this OCD. What it is that is making him do this. And how you can come to a win-win situation where both your needs are met, so he gets his say too.
If he's not open for adjustment and just keeps wanting to control you...dump his ass.
All in all, the way you described him though, I'd say the poor man has a case of being completely head over heels for you and not knowhing how to handle it properly
Show him some understanding...Fi is a bitch that way