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View Poll Results: NT's-happier in a relationship or single?

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  • I'm ENTJ; have been happier in a serious relationship

    1 3.57%
  • I'm ENTJ; have been happier casually dating

    0 0%
  • I'm ENTJ; have been happier single

    0 0%
  • I'm ENTP; have been happier in a serious relationship

    3 10.71%
  • I'm ENTP; have been happier casually dating

    3 10.71%
  • I'm ENTP; have been happier single

    4 14.29%
  • I'm INTJ; have been happier in a serious relationship

    4 14.29%
  • I'm INTJ; have been happier casually dating

    1 3.57%
  • I'm INTJ; have been happier single

    3 10.71%
  • I'm INTP; have been happier in a serious relationship

    2 7.14%
  • I'm INTP; have been happier casually dating

    2 7.14%
  • I'm INTP; have been happier single

    5 17.86%
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  1. #11
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    There are perks to both. If I've been in a serious relationship with the same person for a while, then I might find myself feeling chained and wanting to have the freedom that comes with being single. If I've been single for a while, then I might find myself lonely and wanting a stable companion with whom to share myself. The longest relationship I've had was with another NT, for over 3 years, and it ended in part because we both wanted more freedom.

    Committed relationships just for the sake of comfort and stability are pointless to me and inevitably leave me feeling chained and curious for something better. The relationship and the person that's in it with me have to continue piquing my interest with little to no emotional drama (if I have to start investing a significant percentage of my time to soothing my SO over relationship matters, then I'll quickly lose interest). But really, so long as I'm enjoying myself in my current romantic state, it doesn't matter to me if I'm in a 3-year relationship or playing the field with a number of men.

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    I'm ENTP; have been happier in a serious relationship
    I'm ENTP; have been happier single

    It's 50/50 on those two as now I'd be happier being single than being in an average relationship, but a good relationship trumps everything... for as long as it's good.

    For a long time I was happy being single though, and actively wanted to stay single. Finding a relationship that I'm willing to consider "serious" is quite an ask, finding a relationship where I feel free enough to be committed is also quite the ask. I enjoy feeling unattached. The middle ground may sound fun but in reality I'd rather get to know new people without romantic undertones.

    At a certain point in my mid-late 20s I started feeling as though I would like to experience a relationship with someone that I could connect to on a deeper level, turns out I can't do that with most people so I was still single, just not so super-happy about it.

    It comes down to what matters more to me, when I was single and happy about it I was concentrating on me, I was able to be as selfish as I wanted to be and at the time that mattered to me more than meeting someone potentially great. Attempts at relationships during that time were hopeless, I was unable to get emotionally invested in anyone while I was enjoying my singledom, relationships weren't something that made me happy. When I wanted a connection being single or dating those I couldn't connect with only made it worse and a serious relationship more ideal.

    As I'm in a happy relationship atm I'd go with that option but I reserve the right to change my mind and stick to "I'm happier single then in an average relationship".

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    INTJ

    I feel best if i'm in a healthy, long-term relationship.

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    What do we say if we haven't had a relationship.

    I don't want a relationship unless it's with someone I can connect with properly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by You'reWrongI'mRight View Post
    I have little relationship experience.

    From what I can tell from past relationships. I did tend to be happier single, however, I think that might be because I did not like who I was dating( or I eventually didn't like them).
    It's just I find relationships very exhausting, too much work.

    I think when I find the right person, They will make me even happier than when I am single.

    I think when that happens, the "work" is completely worth it.


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    I don't do casual relationships.
    saved my a lot of typing, thanks!

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    You're forgetting one option: "INTP; have never been on a date."
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    If we're talking about INTPs it would be more appropriate to ask "when were you less miserable" too.

    Other than that, what Tallulah said.
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    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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