She is clearly asking for guidance here, and all you offer is that? This is called sticking to wat you think works, even if it clearly does not.
Think in a forward direction, and try to suffer the possiblity of being clear but wrong, rather than purposely obscure because of fear.
Stop deferring to some unknown 'higher authority' and have a thought of your own...
Oh fuck it. I'm outta here. Goodbye, assholes.