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    `~~Philosoflying~~` SillySapienne's Avatar
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    I think I'm a 4 because my dad told me when I was 12 that he did not love me.

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    If someone didnt appreciate something I've put a lot of "emotions" into I'd just slap them and be like OKAY NOW WE ARE GOING TO TRY THIS AGAIN, BUT WITH A LITTLE MORE ENTHUSIASM, K?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Antimony View Post
    I don't set up an expected response...just when I do things, they tend to be really over the top. So, I dunno, I want some kind of correlation between the level of creativity and effort and the reaction.
    That's an expectation right there.

    Personally, I'm an acts-of-service type. If I do something for someone, all I want is a little thanks. They don't have to be giddy or excited or even return the favor or give me beer or a meal... They just have to appreciate what I did and then I feel ok with how it all played out.

    I might expect more if I did something out of the ordinary, like make some sentimental doodad for them. I feel like that's going out of my way more than say, helping someone move or setting up their tv/computer/whatever.

    I've had higher expectations in the past and people are ungrateful jerks. You can't control anything except what you do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Antimony View Post
    I just feel so...I dunno, out of place overall when doing extreme emotional/thoughtful/sweet acts or whatver, but I don't really notice it until it doesn't get the reaction (aka a big one) that I was hoping for. I feel like it undermines my reputation as a robot (which I sort of try to maintain for the purpose of protection/it is comfortable). And then when I don't get the reaction I was hoping for, I tell myself "oh, well, don't be sweet anymore...you are too sappy, too needy, this is pitiful" etc

    It is just really bothering because I enjoy making people happy, but when it goes unnoticed, I want to stop, but sometimes I keep doing and feel like an idiot. I am not entirely sure why I feel like an idiot when initiating emotional things.

    Soooo...for lack of a better term....how do I stop being sensitive to reactions to things that make me feel vulnerable?
    This does not cover all of what you are talking about, but when I do nice things for people, I prefer it to be completely anonymous. I get my satisfaction from seeing them enjoy or make use of whatever I have done from a distance, without the attention, fuss, or emotional scene of being directly involved in their reaction. If my action cannot be anonymous, the next best thing is for only the target person to be involved or around when I do it. Then I do my best to downplay their reaction and minimize the emotional interaction.

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    You are an NT..your emotional, ooey gooey and kind acts are made evident less often than with other types. When you do show such things, you want to be recognized and appreciated for it, since they are so rare. It's natural.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MiasmaResonance View Post
    You are an NT..your emotional, ooey gooey and kind acts are made evident less often than with other types. When you do show such things, you want to be recognized and appreciated for it, since they are so rare. It's natural.
    No, actually, I really don't care about recognition, and my kind actions are not that rare. My concern is mostly that the act had the desired effect, and the intended beneficiary did indeed benefit. A direct acknowledgment can provide this assurance, but my own observations and third party reports can as well. I find direct thanks and recognition quite embarrassing and prefer to minimize it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Antimony View Post
    He pays attention, but he is an INTJ...therefore I make it my goal to get a reaction out of him. I just like getting reactions outta people!
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    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post
    This is where you fucked up.
    yup

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    How about growing a pair?

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    ^ it isn't that it is not freely, because obviously I still give, even with not much/nothing in return. I was just curious about how others of differing/same types would feel in a similar situation.

    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post
    This is where you fucked up.
    It makes me feel a little less like everyone else if he shows more attention to what I do, instead of ignoring it.


    I am over it by now, anyway. I was probably just about to be on my period when I made this thread and was more emotionally sensitive.
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