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    Default ENTPs COME HERE. AGAIN.

    I have an ENTP friend that has been REALLY confusing me lately. When we first met and starting hanging out, we talked A LOT, and we spent a fair amount of time together. As time went on, we began talking less and less, and his communication with me became pretty limited. Before I would ask him to hang out, and we usually would. Now, whenever I suggest hanging out or such, he rejects it.

    It IS completely possible that I am jumping the gun and there is nothing wrong - he IS a fairly busy person. But, it is just so odd to me how we went from communicating so much to so little. So,

    Mmkay. Question(s).

    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you dislike?

    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you like?

    By distinctly, I mean I want things you specifically and uniquely do.

    If you dislike someone, would you still talk to them?

    What would you do if someone you dislike asks you to hang out now and then?

    Do you try to spare feelings, or are you blunt?

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    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you dislike? avoid them

    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you like? meet regularly

    By distinctly, I mean I want things you specifically and uniquely do. invite over, hang out, do things for them

    If you dislike someone, would you still talk to them? to the bare minimum possible

    What would you do if someone you dislike asks you to hang out now and then? postpone it or change the topic

    Do you try to spare feelings, or are you blunt? depends on how desperate is the other person to know whats going on. if very, i explain what i want politely, if not then avoid the conversation, if a little bit then blunt!
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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    Mmkay. Question(s).

    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you dislike?
    I avoid them all together.

    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you like?
    If I feel good around them, then I'd want to continue feeling that way. If I don't, I won't.

    By distinctly, I mean I want things you specifically and uniquely do.


    If you dislike someone, would you still talk to them?
    Nope. If I have to, I limit it as much as possible.

    What would you do if someone you dislike asks you to hang out now and then?
    That wouldn't happen to me, because the people I dislike don't even do that. If somehow that were to happen, I'd reject it, and if they persist after that, I'll lay it down bluntly what I think. If they persist after that; I ignore them all together.

    Do you try to spare feelings, or are you blunt?
    To a point, depending how the person is.

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    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you dislike?
    I avoid them, in extreme cases, like if they piss me off and I can't tell them that without offending them or they won't get it, I ignore them.

    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you like?
    I'm myself, and I hang with them frequently.


    If you dislike someone, would you still talk to them?
    If it's casual and not pointless, like for a class or a project.

    What would you do if someone you dislike asks you to hang out now and then?
    I'd say no, we're not friends.

    Do you try to spare feelings, or are you blunt?
    I'm as blunt as blunt gets, but recently I've been surrounded by possibly the most extreme F's on the planet, so I do try and hold back so they don't kill themselves because I spilled milk or something trivial.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you dislike?
    Ignore them. Depending on the person I might indulge in some verbal abuse in their direction.

    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you like?
    Seek them out, talk to them, hang out, etc.

    By distinctly, I mean I want things you specifically and uniquely do.
    Nothing special. Just do stuff that we like doing together or whatever I/we feel up to at the time.

    If you dislike someone, would you still talk to them?
    I would maintain a civil relationship if necessary (if it's someone at work, etc.), or otherwise just make fun of them.

    What would you do if someone you dislike asks you to hang out now and then?
    Say no.

    Do you try to spare feelings, or are you blunt?
    I try to spare my friends' feelings, but not those of people I dislike.
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    Lurker mode: Off.

    I feel like you're potentially asking the wrong questions here, or just not asking enough.

    Last year I made friends with a wonderful group of people, and I'll never stop enjoying their company. Unfortunately, when university demanded more of my time, I was forced to cut down on my socialising. In that sort of situation, I want to maximise what little I have. So I hang about with my more conveniently (geographically speaking) placed friends.

    I've made a few attempts to re-initiate contact with them, but I'd say I've essentially lost them.

    It depends on the nature of the rejection. If I want to avoid the person, I'm not going to tell them I hate them but I won't respond to invites with "Aw, I'd love to! But I can't!" I'll simply reply that I'm not able - or ignore the text altogether. If they reply with a tone of regret that they can't meet up, you should be able to assume it is genuine.

    Regardless, I'd say the best approach (assuming you're very fond of the friend), is to keep up with the occasional invite to let them know they're missed, but don't go crazy. After some time they'll either turn up again (because you've made it clear that it would be easy for them to return), or they'll stop even replying to your texts.

    Relax. It's exam time after all. (For some of us! :P )

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    I have an ENTP friend that has been REALLY confusing me lately. When we first met and starting hanging out, we talked A LOT, and we spent a fair amount of time together. As time went on, we began talking less and less, and his communication with me became pretty limited. Before I would ask him to hang out, and we usually would. Now, whenever I suggest hanging out or such, he rejects it.

    It IS completely possible that I am jumping the gun and there is nothing wrong - he IS a fairly busy person. But, it is just so odd to me how we went from communicating so much to so little. So,

    Mmkay. Question(s).

    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you dislike?

    How do you DISTINCTLY act towards people that you like?

    By distinctly, I mean I want things you specifically and uniquely do.

    If you dislike someone, would you still talk to them?

    What would you do if someone you dislike asks you to hang out now and then?

    Do you try to spare feelings, or are you blunt?
    How long have you known this fellow? I love being around new people and when I meet someone I usually am quick to bond. After a while though the initial fascination wears off and I only stick to those people who I really consider my friend. If he's anything like me you would've known for sure that he really doesn't like you, I tend to be fairly blunt or very avoidant if bluntness isn't appropriate in the situation (coworkers, roommates, classmates etc.)
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    @ the OP:

    I'm not an ENTP, but I have to ask if you've considered just asking the guy if there is something wrong? If you don't want to be straightforward with him you could ask him to hang out one more time just to see if he refuses. If he does then it might be a good idea to withdraw from him. You could break off contact with him and if he gives a shit about you he should try to contact you and see what's up after awhile. If he doesn't then you'll have your answer. It seems to me that people often want to give the other person the benefit of the doubt when relationships start to deteriorate and the person stops responding to or initiating contact, but I think regardless of type, if someone is interested in you they will make an effort to stay in contact with you. So imho the best way to deal with these situations is to either come right out and ask the guy what's up or return the favor and see if he gets a hint and calls you back.

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