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    Quote Originally Posted by Aleksei View Post
    ENTPs are capable of lurking in a forum?
    Evidently not! But I tried!

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    Been there.
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    So, so far I've collected this

    If ENTPs dislike someone, they'll avoid that person if at all person, and limit communication the the bare minimum

    If they DO like someone, they'll make an effort to talk to them, and spend time with them.

    Yes?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cryptic View Post
    Lurker mode: Off.

    I feel like you're potentially asking the wrong questions here, or just not asking enough.

    Last year I made friends with a wonderful group of people, and I'll never stop enjoying their company. Unfortunately, when university demanded more of my time, I was forced to cut down on my socialising. In that sort of situation, I want to maximise what little I have. So I hang about with my more conveniently (geographically speaking) placed friends.

    I've made a few attempts to re-initiate contact with them, but I'd say I've essentially lost them.

    It depends on the nature of the rejection. If I want to avoid the person, I'm not going to tell them I hate them but I won't respond to invites with "Aw, I'd love to! But I can't!" I'll simply reply that I'm not able - or ignore the text altogether. If they reply with a tone of regret that they can't meet up, you should be able to assume it is genuine.

    Regardless, I'd say the best approach (assuming you're very fond of the friend), is to keep up with the occasional invite to let them know they're missed, but don't go crazy. After some time they'll either turn up again (because you've made it clear that it would be easy for them to return), or they'll stop even replying to your texts.

    Relax. It's exam time after all. (For some of us! :P )
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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    So, so far I've collected this

    If ENTPs dislike someone, they'll avoid that person if at all person, and limit communication the the bare minimum

    If they DO like someone, they'll make an effort to talk to them, and spend time with them.

    Yes?
    Well, when we're busy we're busy. And there are about a billion people I do like but don't (or hardly) spend time with for various reasons. So you're basically right but it's not the entire story.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    So, so far I've collected this

    If ENTPs dislike someone, they'll avoid that person if at all person, and limit communication the the bare minimum

    If they DO like someone, they'll make an effort to talk to them, and spend time with them.

    Yes?
    Correct but not complete. We'll avoid people if we're busy, obviously, but we'll be genuinely sorry about it if we like you. If we don't, we will probably not spare your feelings, so we won't be nice about it.
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    Gah. I just really hope this ENTP isn't avoiding me. That's what it seems, though. :/ He's barely talking to me, rejecting my suggestions to hang out, and sometimes not replying altogether. Makes me sad, but what can I do? I just wish I knew WHY, you know?

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    Gah. I just really hope this ENTP isn't avoiding me. That's what it seems, though. :/ He's barely talking to me, rejecting my suggestions to hang out, and sometimes not replying altogether. Makes me sad, but what can I do? I just wish I knew WHY, you know?
    You might know why if you just ask him. It's worth a shot. If he blows you off or sidesteps the question - then why care why he does anything? I mean do you really need this guy if he is going to treat you like that? Maybe his answer will positively surprise you? But, you'll never know unless you ask him. The problem with trying to figure out what someone else is thinking without actually asking them is the fact that it is pretty easy to be wrong.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    Gah. I just really hope this ENTP isn't avoiding me. That's what it seems, though. :/ He's barely talking to me, rejecting my suggestions to hang out, and sometimes not replying altogether. Makes me sad, but what can I do? I just wish I knew WHY, you know?
    Ask him. Chances are he'll be honest with you.
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    Asking will probably lead to answers. ENTPs usually don't avoid confrontation, so there isn't much to worry about, except the answer you don't want, but it's best to know. He could be busy, so you could just ask 'Have you been busy lately?' I know I avoided most, if not all, of my friends during finals week because I was overwhelmed with work, and I didn't bother talking to them until I was done...I forgot to talk to some of them though. It could've also been a forgetful thing.

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    Yeah. I texted him twice, and both were pretty spaced. One was 'So, what are you up to?'

    The other was,

    'GRAH, talk to mee.'

    No reply.

    I quit.

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