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    I wouldnt really mind if someone had feelings towards me and i didnt feel the same for her. That is if she could act normally after telling about her feelings. But thats just me and im a male.

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    Yeah, any advice I can give you, I know you will disregard. The fundamental blockade here is your attitude. I think you're making way to big a deal out of it, and that leads us to the following:

    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    IME INTPs in friendships [and relationships, for some] will reflect the disposition of the other person. If you fail miserably, she won't be weird if you're not weird. But if you are, then she will be, or just simply cut you off.
    I don't even think it's an INTP thing, people in general work this way.

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    Are you trying to tell me that an INTP can be seduced? And that an INTJ is capable of seduction?
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    I don't like the idea that I'm manipulating someones feelings and values either. Unless they're absolutely stupid of course.

    Frankly, the closest I'd ever get to seducing is being particularly nice but still being myself. And when I am with someone like this girl, I am naturally nice.
    Seduction isn't just about following fixed protocols and manipulating feelings, it's about presenting yourself in the most desirable way. Ideally seduction is the pretty package that holds the perfect product. Now you don't have to run off and get all the PUA stuff you can find, but a little general social knowledge has never done harm to anybody. On the subject of seduction I share the opinion expressed in the movie 'hitch'.

    If all else fails there's always alcohol*. And don't bother on getting her drunk, it's you who should loosen up a bit.

    *Other peoples morals and general decency make me feel I'm supposed to put a little disclaimer here about the dangers of drinking. Instead I'm going to tell you that alcohol has helped people get dates since longer then I care to remember.
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    Quote Originally Posted by goodgrief View Post
    Okay, a while ago I posted to ask how to tell if an INTP likes you because I have feelings for one. Unfortunately so far I've seen few signs. I still want to ask her out.

    Basically here is the thing. She is my close friend, there is another guy she refers to as her best friend, but he doesn't seemto spend much time with her. Anyway, we get along really well and I just love being with her. I stayed behind after school today until her parents arrived to pick her up (which took about 45 minutes) and it was the happiest I've been in a while. I'm really thinking of telling her my feelings but I'm worried that if I am rejected, it may hinder the friendship and it may become awkward. I want to know whether INTPs handle this sort of thing well and if it's likely to cause a problem. On my side I would be embarrassed for a while but I would still want the friendship to stay strong and wouldn't let it get in the way. Would an INTP be able to continue on as if it never happened?
    IME, no.

    INTP's i've known have been really uncomfortable in emotional/relationship situations, hold grudges, and aren't able to bounce back.

    On the other hand, she may really feel the same way... It sounds like you really like her, and it may drive you crazy if you never do anything about it.

    I say, tell her your feelings regardless of how you think she'll react. You will probably be quite happy with the end result. If you remain concerned with a possible bad reaction, than you will never know.

    (Edit: Oh, and if they have feelings for you they will respond in full force-awkwardly.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by shortnsweet View Post
    IME, no.

    INTP's i've known have been really uncomfortable in emotional/relationship situations, hold grudges, and aren't able to bounce back.
    From being asked out???

    We're weird. But we're not that weird.
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    In regards to your social anxiety, just know this: your true self, your most authentic self (the one who doesn't like to talk about sex/feelings, or the one who really does desire to talk about it - whichever one is the authentic you) is exactly what you should go with. Strip off the pretentious thoughts that we're all so prone to have. Thoughts like, "Should I be like this or should I be like that?" That's stressful. Just strip down to the most authentic you and put that out there.

    You might really like her for her mind, but don't forget that as an INTJ, your mind is a huge asset too. Your intelligence, your logic, your thought process, your humor, etc, etc, are things that you have to put out there on the table for her to see. Not in a fake way. In an authentic way. Put the fruit out on the table and let her sniff it - probably a 75% chance she's going to be intrigued by it. But, if you just keep it in your pocket, there's nothing to be intrigued by.

    If she likes your authentic self, then you guys are probably off and running. If she doesn't, don't be offended in the slightest (I know this is easier said than done). Just realize that every fish in the sea isn't going to like you (just like you won't like all of them). But, you have to put your fruit on the table. If your mind is a banana, then put the banana on the table. If it's an orange, then put an orange on the table. Authenticity. But, if you're an orange, don't try to be a cantaloupe. It just doesn't work.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    From being asked out???

    We're weird. But we're not that weird.
    You're pretty weird.
    If an opposite sex close friend asked you out and you didn't expect it at all, (or even if you were hoping for it) my guess, is that you'd react pretty awkwardly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by shortnsweet View Post
    You're pretty weird.
    If an opposite sex close friend asked you out and you didn't expect it at all, (or even if you were hoping for it) my guess, is that you'd react pretty awkwardly.
    No I wouldn't!
    I'd just move to Brazil.


    ETA. Actually, this happened to me recently. I made a joke of it to lighten things up and spare his ego best I could.
    I haven't heard from him since.
    He was actually getting a bit weird himself beforehand so it's probably no bad thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    No I wouldn't!
    I'd just move to Brazil.

    Oh, that's not too bad..

    But, see, some people might think that it's a little strange...
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    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    IME INTPs in friendships [and relationships, for some] will reflect the disposition of the other person. If you fail miserably, she won't be weird if you're not weird. But if you are, then she will be, or just simply cut you off.
    yep, we just tend to reciprocate.

    An INTP is pretty much the easiest type to have an infatuation with. We won't mind you making hte move, will tell you openly so if the attraction is mutual if you ask us, and if it isn't we won't be "wierd" afterwards unless you are.

    So just tell her goodgrief, if she is INTP she will prob give you a truthful answer and it prob won't be a problem unless you make it one.
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    "Every country in the world owes money. Everyone. So heere's what I dont get: who do they all owe it to, and why don't we just kill the bastard and relax?"

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    Also Re the whole Robert Greene thing - my advice is ignore it. It's based on strategies for "power". But power-brokers rise to the top by crushing all around them, and then are eventually ruined when they exhaust the bases of their power. This is why 99% of political careers are characterized by betrayal and end in failure.

    Most people don't aim for their life to take this course and therefore theories of "Power and Seduction" aren't really of much use to them.
    "Of course we spent our money in the good times. That's what you're supposed to do in good times! You can't save money in the good times. Then they wouldn't be good times, they'd be 'preparation for the bad times' times."

    "Every country in the world owes money. Everyone. So heere's what I dont get: who do they all owe it to, and why don't we just kill the bastard and relax?"

    -Tommy Tiernan, Irish comedian.

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