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    Default ENTPs: Question!

    What do you do to get an ENTP to REALLY like you? I don't necessarily mean romantically, but just really like you in general.

    I can also turn this around and say, what do you (ENTPs) really like in people?

    What makes you feel/know that you can trust someone? What makes you want to keep someone in your life?

    What REALLY annoys you? What do you do when you're annoyed with someone/don't want to talk to them?

    If you don't want to talk to someone, would you tell them? Ignore them?

    What do you do when you really like someone? (again, not necessarily romantically)

    Do you find yourself communicating with friends first, or wait for them to communicate with you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    What do you do to get an ENTP to REALLY like you? I don't necessarily mean romantically, but just really like you in general.

    I can also turn this around and say, what do you (ENTPs) really like in people?
    To put it generally I really like to have fun. Specifically I really like playing games (board, card, video, etc...), but other ENTP's probably have other things they consider fun. Having fun is really high priority for me though.

    What makes you feel/know that you can trust someone? What makes you want to keep someone in your life?
    That is a pretty different question. Generally it takes time for me to trust a person and even then it's rare. The main thing for me is to first understand how a person communicates, and then I need to see how well their behavior fits their actions. How selfish or altruistic a person is also matters.

    What REALLY annoys you? What do you do when you're annoyed with someone/don't want to talk to them?
    Boredom is annoying. I prefer to avoid it.

    If you don't want to talk to someone, would you tell them? Ignore them?
    Depends on why I don't want to talk to them. If they are boring then I just avoid them. Otherwise I just tell them what my problem is with them. If their problem is really with someone close to me then I just ignore them.

    What do you do when you really like someone? (again, not necessarily romantically)

    Do you find yourself communicating with friends first, or wait for them to communicate with you?
    This can vary (on both questions). I tend to vary my response to see how people react.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    What do you do to get an ENTP to REALLY like you? I don't necessarily mean romantically, but just really like you in general.
    You shouldn't do anything just for the purpose of getting an ENTP (or anyone for that matter) to like you. Just be yourself.

    Don't pass a car in the fast lane if you don't plan on maintaining speed.

    I can also turn this around and say, what do you (ENTPs) really like in people?
    I like people who are dynamic and who bring a wide variety of interests to the table. If you are very intelligent, I'll probably worship you behind your back.

    Spontaneous is always a plus too. I'm not too fond of forced structure and routine.

    Oh, and self-confidence with a slight dose of humility and a willingness to accept that his/her perspectives may not be completely flawless.

    What makes you feel/know that you can trust someone? What makes you want to keep someone in your life?
    I feel like I can trust somebody if they make a point from the beginning of the relationship to exemplify their honesty. If someone seems evasive or unable to answer provocative questions, then I start to become suspicious. It really doesn't take too much for me to trust; I typically trust until I've found out that a lie has been told. After that, it can be kind of hard, but that's only natural.

    I want to keep anyone in my life who is honest, sincere, and enjoyable to be around. They don't have to be superior in any realms or offer me any direct benefit other than a few moments of pleasure. I'm really not that picky.

    I'm more likely to actively not want certain people in my life than I am to want them. I keep anyone around until they've shown me that they have the ability and are willing to utilize the ability to harm me in some fashion.

    What REALLY annoys you? What do you do when you're annoyed with someone/don't want to talk to them?
    Staunchly affirming opinions as though they are facts.

    The inability to understand that there's not always only one perspective that's worth consideration.

    Just overall intolerance towards that which is different and the headstrong urge to never accept fault.

    Oh, and I really don't like being blindly bossed around or attempts at controlling me. If you willfully close a door, I'll hold deep resentment towards you.

    And if I'm annoyed with someone and don't want to talk, I generally just respond in curt, one-word/one-sentence answers to questions, rather than the typical thorough elaboration. I think that I'm particularly sensitive to people being overly critical and judgmental of my (rather atypical) views, so if I've picked up on a closed-minded vibe, then I'm going to become pretty annoyed and subsequently withholding.

    If you don't want to talk to someone, would you tell them? Ignore them?
    I probably wouldn't tell them then and there, in person (though I'd probably say something like that to someone who is annoying me online). I would just kind of hint at it, and if they didn't get the picture, then I'd find some excuse to exit the conversation and avoid future interaction with them.

    What do you do when you really like someone? (again, not necessarily romantically)
    I get mildly clingy and start trying to prove myself (but not in an overly enthusiastic way) to them in order to gain their respect. This is a lot more subtle, however. I don't like to let on how much I really like people until I've figured out that they also respect me. It kind of becomes a competition revolved around who is "weak" enough to first disclose their feelings (romantic or otherwise).

    Do you find yourself communicating with friends first, or wait for them to communicate with you?
    Usually I'm the one that calls up friends to chill or talk.

    And if there's a problem between a friend and me, I'm usually the one to initiate a conversation about it. I have trouble just letting things ride.

    If I have a personal problem that doesn't directly involve the person in question, then I don't typically initiate a conversation about it. I usually only talk about it if I'm asked directly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    What do you do to get an ENTP to REALLY like you? I don't necessarily mean romantically, but just really like you in general.
    Be yourself, and let the ENTP decide if that is their cup of tea.

    If you fake it, you'll forsake it.

    I can also turn this around and say, what do you (ENTPs) really like in people?
    That there is some thing about that person to be curious about. Some new outlook, some kind of challenge, some kind of inquiry, some kind of contemplation, some kind of humour, that they pique in me. Their energy is something that I'm drawn to, not repelled from.

    If I'm in the mood, I can always find an angle of intrigue in another person, place or thing.

    I generally like quirks in people.

    What makes you feel/know that you can trust someone?
    A vibe and that what they say is consistent with their actions in such a way, where unpredictability is cool, awesome even, but, unaccountability is not.

    What makes you want to keep someone in your life?
    They challenge some aspect of me, to progress, to grow.

    What REALLY annoys you? What do you do when you're annoyed with someone/don't want to talk to them?
    Inconsistency, cruelty, willful (righteous) ignorance, conscious arrogance that's not meant to be sardonic, moral compass gone bonkers, those who try to demand, give me orders, tell me what to do (i.e., control), those who try to manipulate me in some way, those who are overly dramatic/theatrical with their emotions (subjective to my level of tolerance), those who are unwilling to be open to hearing my points of view, those who don't think about the global consequence of their actions, reactions and/or inactions.

    Depending on my position and/or social distance with the other person, I will either not bother (just make sure to avoid them - they're outta sight, outta mind, at that point), find an angle to make my point surreptitiously known (if diplomacy is needed, e.g., coworkers/boss), or like with friends and romantic partners, tell them nicely once, see if their subsequent actions show that they comprehend, and if they don't, tell them twice, a bit more forcefully, and if still it doesn't sink in, I tell them a third time with an explicit consequence from my end, attached to it. If they still fail, I carry out my previously outlined consequence.

    If you don't want to talk to someone, would you tell them? Ignore them?
    If it is a friend, yes. If it is an aquaintance, I will most likely ignore.

    What do you do when you really like someone? (again, not necessarily romantically)
    They get my "undivided" attention, paradoxically mixed in with a bit of distance from me (as I'm afraid at that point, that I may scare them away, so I keep saying to myself, "pace yourself, give them space")...so it might look like a confusing mess of push-pull at the beginning, but I find a balance soon enough. I also show them the "best parts of me" while throwing in some warts of mine, here and there, to gauge if they genuinely like me back.

    Do you find yourself communicating with friends first, or wait for them to communicate with you?
    Mostly, they communicate with me, but it's not conscious on my part, my lack of communication. Sometimes, I just don't even realize how "long" a communication has been (time is not always a good indicator, for me). If I think of someone, like they pop into my head, I'll randomly communicate with them. There's no "turns" that I wait for, or anything. If I think about you and feel like sharing something, some moment, I'll open the line of communication.

    It's not about how much or how little I like you - it's about my thoughts of the day, and wherever they may go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    What do you do to get an ENTP to REALLY like you? I don't necessarily mean romantically, but just really like you in general.
    I actually think this is a very important distinction, so before I answer, I'd like to know that you're speaking in strictly general terms here.

    I like a lot of people, but I'm not interested in a lot of people romantically.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amphion View Post
    I actually think this is a very important distinction, so before I answer, I'd like to know that you're speaking in strictly general terms here.

    I like a lot of people, but I'm not interested in a lot of people romantically.
    Didn't the OP explicitly state that the question was in regards to "general feelings" towards people, rather than "romantic feelings" specifically? Ie, liking somebody, but not specifically liking them romantically. Why are you confused about this?

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    Quote Originally Posted by teslashock View Post
    Didn't the OP explicitly state that the question was in regards to "general feelings" towards people, rather than "romantic feelings" specifically? Ie, liking somebody, but not specifically liking them romantically. Why are you confused about this?
    I'm not confused per se. Just reading between the lines since the OP said, "I don't necessarily mean romantically." One of the questions relates to what makes an ENTP want to "keep someone" in their life. So I'm giving the OP an opportunity to clarify if she has more than a platonic interest in a particular ENTP, because it will change the tone of my answer.

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    Be willing to play ping-pong with ideas. Have ideas. Be spontaneous. Be willing to let him be spontaneous.

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    Woow! Thank you so much you guys! <3

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotpinkHeatwave View Post
    What REALLY annoys you? What do you do when you're annoyed with someone/don't want to talk to them?

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