When I choose to act compassionate towards someone else, the labels like 'kindness' or 'generosity' tend to slip my mind because I'm so intensely focused on the integrity of the act itself, regardless of what others may believe. Often times, my compassion is delivered in a very subtle (though effective) format, and due to its hidden nature, people are typically shocked when they discover how much thought and effort I put into helping them out, because my apathetic demeanor suggests nothing of that sort.
I suppose I like it that way. It's better to be unexpected. On the other hand, my subtlety sometimes gives people the wrong impression. [As an example: My mother thought for years that I loathed her very presence, but honestly, it was quite the opposite -- I highly admired her dedication & strength of will. Always have. Just being expressive about it never crossed my mind.]