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    Senior Member think2much's Avatar
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    Default need help with a girl (I'm INTP)

    to make it short this is what happend
    -no luck with ladies
    -gave up and focus on goals


    I can't believe I met someone but I did! she's not in my classes. It was a random conversation. I could tell she liked me so I said "we should hang out this weekend or whenever you're free". She gave me her number.

    I have confidence but I don't like to flirt. She said txt me but I don't know what to txt. I wouldn't know what to do if we do "hang out". to be honest I'm a boring guy. I like to be alone almost all the time and I don't talk a lot.

    I know this isn't a dating site but I can get more help by getting advice from INTP or someone who knows what kind of person I am.

    What should I say to her?

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    how old are you for some back ground info?

    and I'm sure you're not boring. you must have interests

    you should text her saying something confident and inviting
    I live my life for the stars that shine & people say its just a waste of time- Oasis

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post
    What should I say to her?
    What did you talk about when you met her?
    Quote Originally Posted by Ivy View Post
    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post
    to make it short this is what happend
    -no luck with ladies
    -gave up and focus on goals


    I can't believe I met someone but I did! she's not in my classes. It was a random conversation. I could tell she liked me so I said "we should hang out this weekend or whenever you're free". She gave me her number.

    I have confidence but I don't like to flirt. She said txt me but I don't know what to txt. I wouldn't know what to do if we do "hang out". to be honest I'm a boring guy. I like to be alone almost all the time and I don't talk a lot.

    I know this isn't a dating site but I can get more help by getting advice from INTP or someone who knows what kind of person I am.

    What should I say to her?
    Do not plan what to txt her. Rid yourself of expectations. That includes sex. And marriage and kids.

    If there is something that this girl has that captivates you, look inside yourself to find out what it is, and then base your actions and thoughts on it. If at this point you've already found yourself in a "wrong" state of mind/starting point, there isn't any advice you need which you don't already know. But it's up to you to cleanse it and go back to step one.

    Even when one manages to do any or all of the above, there is no guarantee the other side has. Fun isn't it? Welcome to life.

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    ^Solid advise

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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    What did you talk about when you met her?
    school, things like her major, what classes she's taking. it was small talk

    Quote Originally Posted by phobik View Post
    Do not plan what to txt her. Rid yourself of expectations. That includes sex. And marriage and kids.

    If there is something that this girl has that captivates you, look inside yourself to find out what it is, and then base your actions and thoughts on it. If at this point you've already found yourself in a "wrong" state of mind/starting point, there isn't any advice you need which you don't already know. But it's up to you to cleanse it and go back to step one.

    Even when one manages to do any or all of the above, there is no guarantee the other side has. Fun isn't it? Welcome to life.
    I think it's good idea to be creative and say stuff that'll make her want me. I'm simply asking for help cause I don't know how to be "playful".

    I'm interested in this girl cause she's pretty and actully likes me. She seem to be happy that I was talking to her. But than she doesn't know me well enough to find out that I'm just a boring guy. My main reason I asked her out was cause she was interested in me which is something that rarely happends in my life.

    Should I post these on other thread? People know my situation on other thread.

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post
    I'm interested in this girl cause she's pretty and actully likes me.
    Congrats you've just figured it all out. You're good to go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post
    school, things like her major, what classes she's taking. it was small talk
    So just do more of that.
    And stop telling yourself you're boring. Everyone is boring, and no one is.
    Quote Originally Posted by Ivy View Post
    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post

    I know this isn't a dating site but I can get more help by getting advice from INTP or someone who knows what kind of person I am.

    What should I say to her?
    It's not? Seems like it at times

    Well anyways, I'd find some way to continue the conversation you were having. That, or send her random stuff that pops into your head that you think is funny if she seemed to dig your humor.



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    In life you have to look for win-win situations.

    I found one for you:

    Problems:
    - you are boring (or, you live a boring life)
    - you don't know what to do with this girl

    SO
    (drumroll)

    Find something interesting to do, and do it with her.

    You're in college or something right? Surely there is some campus paper with an events section?
    Don't know how much it'll bend til it breaks.

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