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    oh god, I txted her and the conversation is already lame........ I'm not being playful and making her laugh. It's just a regular conversation.

    me"hey what's up"
    her"who's this"
    me"it's myname from school"
    her"myname!!!"
    2minutes later
    her"are you gonna be at redsquare(she's talking about campus btw) tomorrow"
    me"nope, are you"
    her"yea"
    me"how long are you staying"
    her"I dunno"

    someone save me....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bamboo View Post
    In life you have to look for win-win situations.

    I found one for you:

    Problems:
    - you are boring (or, you live a boring life)
    - you don't know what to do with this girl

    SO
    (drumroll)

    Find something interesting to do, and do it with her.

    You're in college or something right? Surely there is some campus paper with an events section?
    interesting like what? I already said before I like to be alone most of time and I'm very quite so it would be awkward for her to hang out with me. I knew we had to something "together" but I don't know what activity and I never went on a date before so spend my whole with a girl sound like a nightmare for me. Not to mention she won't have good time since I don't make jokes. I'm one of those guys who's serious all the time.

    EDIT: if I txt at night will she think I want to hook up with her rather than have relationship?

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post
    oh god, I txted her and the conversation is already lame........ I'm not being playful and making her laugh. It's just a regular conversation.

    me"hey what's up"
    her"who's this"
    me"it's myname from school"
    her"myname!!!"
    2minutes later
    her"are you gonna be at redsquare(she's talking about campus btw) tomorrow"
    me"nope, are you"
    her"yea"
    me"how long are you staying"
    her"I dunno"

    someone save me....
    umm...how bout say no but i could come up if ya wanna do somethin!
    There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
    -Jim Morrison

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post
    interesting like what? I already said before I like to be alone most of time and I'm very quite so it would be awkward for her to hang out with me. I knew we had to something "together" but I don't know what activity and I never went on a date before so spend my whole with a girl sound like a nightmare for me. Not to mention she won't have good time since I don't make jokes. I'm one of those guys who's serious all the time.

    EDIT: if I txt at night will she think I want to hook up with her rather than have relationship?
    i do not even understand why you would ask that...but i'm thinkin no.
    There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    umm...how bout say no but i could come up if ya wanna do somethin!
    what do you got?

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post
    what do you got?
    huh? like what should you do?
    There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
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    Is there anything you'd like to know about her? Ask her then. I've learned that if you just ask questions and let the other person talk, things will actually get going.
    Quote Originally Posted by MacGuffin View Post
    ayoitsStepho is becoming someone else. Actually her true self, a rite of passage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ayoitsStepho View Post
    Is there anything you'd like to know about her? Ask her then. I've learned that if you just ask questions and let the other person talk, things will actually get going.
    I dont' want to annoy her with 1000random questions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post
    I dont' want to annoy her with 1000random questions.
    You could ask her out to dinner for a night later in the week. With all the hooking-up crap that goes on this days, she might be really glad to find a nice guy who would actually take her out to dinner!

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    Invite her to get coffee or a soda someplace on/near campus, someplace you can walk to together is best.

    Ask her about herself, not twenty questions, but maybe 2-5 questions. Try not to go into lecture mode if she hits on a subject you're interested in. Don't be afraid to joke, even if your jokes are a little silly. One of the most winning things about INTPs is their goofy side.

    Don't forget to think about whether or not you like her as you get to know her. Plenty of gals like INTPs, so you don't have to just settle and be passively pulled along.
    “There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.”
    ~ John Rogers

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