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    Default need help with a girl (I'm INTP)

    to make it short this is what happend
    -no luck with ladies
    -gave up and focus on goals


    I can't believe I met someone but I did! she's not in my classes. It was a random conversation. I could tell she liked me so I said "we should hang out this weekend or whenever you're free". She gave me her number.

    I have confidence but I don't like to flirt. She said txt me but I don't know what to txt. I wouldn't know what to do if we do "hang out". to be honest I'm a boring guy. I like to be alone almost all the time and I don't talk a lot.

    I know this isn't a dating site but I can get more help by getting advice from INTP or someone who knows what kind of person I am.

    What should I say to her?

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    what kind of things do you like to do that would be fun with someone else?
    do you like museums?
    comedy clubs?
    movies? plays? or what

    if it takes you awhile to open up and talk i wouldn't suggest some place quiet like dinner...i'd suggest something fun...good atmosphere...some activity you could do together maybe?

    and then after you decide what you want to do with her i'd text her something like...movie sat? or something.
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    The title of this thread is redundant.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teslashock View Post
    The title of this thread is redundant.
    Oh look, an ENTP made a comment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teslashock View Post
    The title of this thread is redundant.
    Somehow, I'm not surprised.
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    If she liked you enough to give you her number, I wouldn't worry about what to say. INTPs can talk a LOT to girls who share their interests (string theory, interstellar travel, cryptozoology and the like). And if she does share your interests then you two will find yourselves talking into the wee hours of the morning. If she doesn't share your interests . . . it probably won't work out no matter how hard you try. So in the immortal words of The Genie from Aladdin, "Bee yourself!" There are some cool girls that actually like the quietly intense INTP guy. : )

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    oops, I guess I made double post. How can I delete this thread?

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    Quote Originally Posted by refreshe123d View Post
    to make it short this is what happend
    -no luck with ladies
    -gave up and focus on goals


    I can't believe I met someone but I did! she's not in my classes. It was a random conversation. I could tell she liked me so I said "we should hang out this weekend or whenever you're free". She gave me her number.

    I have confidence but I don't like to flirt. She said txt me but I don't know what to txt. I wouldn't know what to do if we do "hang out". to be honest I'm a boring guy. I like to be alone almost all the time and I don't talk a lot.

    I know this isn't a dating site but I can get more help by getting advice from INTP or someone who knows what kind of person I am.

    What should I say to her?

    Possible Text Greetings

    1. Hey. How have you been?
    2. How is your week going?
    3. What have you been up to this week?
    4. Did you know? <insert random fact here>
    5. Have you heard that? <insert some also random weird factoid>


    Once you transition into to asking this person out, I'd suggest you find an activity that requires some kind of interaction. (insert dirty thoughts here.) They key here is to find something that requires multiple kinds of interactions, so there is time for you to process and relax. You don't want to spend every second staring at them! (Well, you may, but that might feel kind of odd for the other person.)

    Activities
    1. bowling
    2. arcade
    3. video games
    4. poetry readings
    5. some random event on campus
    6. A movie
    7. Coffee
    8. Bookstore
    9. Hiking
    10. Some other random activity that you both might enjoy


    I hope this helps.
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    I would say, go out and exercise in preparation so that your body releases some endorphins and you stimulate your mind and body all at once.

    Exercise makes you feel "cool", relaxed and secure.

    Figure out what you want from the relationship. If you want to have fun like rides at an amusement park, dancing at a club or dip in a pool, just mention it and don't feel sorry later for never asking and losing your chance.

    The universe will never punish you for following your heart and is bound to send more things your way sooner that you expect. You're doing something right, keep that up.

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    I made a list too.

    Possible text greetings:

    1. I set my Firefox to automatically click the random articles button on Wikipedia and just jerked off all over the place.
    2. Do you have a rape fantasy? BTW, your new blinds look great from the outside.
    3. I am a really big fan of Tiger Woods.
    4. I have a 14 incher and a giant wallet, lets go out and I might just use both on you.
    5. I so fucking hate that I wasted my sexual prime on Kelly Kapowski.

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